"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where are the best places to meet people in a new city?

T-Mack

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I just moved in with my LTR girlfriend of two years. I waited until I secured a new job before making the move. My job requires me to travel a lot and I am never working in the same city. However, on my time off I am back in the city that I moved to with my girlfriend for a couple of days or few weeks before returning to work.

I’ve never moved to a new state before. So far I’ve only met a few of my girlfriend’s friends (mostly female). I made the mistake of no longer actively meeting new people after getting into a LTR. As of now my social skills are not the greatest when it comes to meeting new people and I often come off as socially awkward (aka creepy, especially around women). I’d like to make both female and male friends of my own that are not associated with my girlfriend’s friends. I am obviously no longer a college student, but I am living in a large college town so there are plenty of young people here within my age range. I’d appreciate any helpful tips/ideas for meeting new people.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FairShake

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Work, bars, and through friends are where the majority of people meet their friends. I guess there are hobby-oriented places too like the gym or playing basketball.

For those of us who are a bit more socially awkward there are classes at the local community college and meetup groups. Check them out.
 
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