"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Whens the last massage have you've taken? and where?

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Whens the last massage you've taken? and where? I had one a few days ago, at our Hotel my parent's owns a few blocks from our house. It was okay but I felt a lot better in the morning after getting a good night's sleep, feels revitalized man. I think a massage would do you some good right now if you're overly stressed and need some time for yourself, it's sort of like meditation where you're just focus on relaxing yourself and letting go. So I suggest you get one if your out of it and need to destress.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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To me, a message isn't "relaxing" unless I have a few happy endings. :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm planning to get a massage today (with a women of course). The last massage I had was on October 31st.

I agree with your assessment that it does make you feel more relaxed. My whole system feels relaxed, especially the first few days afterwards. It was a novelty at first (ie the first one or two times), but now I'm used to a woman massaging my back. The one I'm seeing today was the first messeuse I visited when I broke the ice with this thing.

Its' normally a quiet and relaxed moment where you can just lie down and relax.
 

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Just had a massage. The masseuse asked me that it's up to me if I wanted to take my underware off. I'm like, did I really just hear that? Of course I kept my underware on. Today is Sunday and it is the Lord's day! I left as pure as I came in and had a great massage!
 

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I had a girl take me to this place, and we not only got a couples massage, but we also did the dinner, the water therapy, and about an hour of Swedish massage. It was my first time, and overall it was a good experience. Our companies paid for the massage since they cover it if the massage therapist is a registered physiotherapist or something like that, and we paid for everything else, plus a hotel nearby.


Later on, I was really stressed and decided to go to a hole-in-the-wall franchise. The experience was night and day, because the masseur there was basically a kid fresh out of college, so it wasn’t anywhere near as good as the luxury one.

 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm planning to get a massage today (with a women of course). The last massage I had was on October 31st.

I agree with your assessment that it does make you feel more relaxed. My whole system feels relaxed, especially the first few days afterwards. It was a novelty at first (ie the first one or two times), but now I'm used to a woman massaging my back. The one I'm seeing today was the first messeuse I visited when I broke the ice with this thing.

Its' normally a quiet and relaxed moment where you can just lie down and relax.
Are you sure? Here is the great scene of George getting a massage from a man:

 
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