"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Whenever I need confidence, I think of this...

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I see a lot of individuals asking what they can do to increase their confidence.Here is something ANY guy can do, even one with absolutely no game/ confidence/ previous experience, etc.

Simply realize that to each and every person you meet, you are essentially a mystery. NOBODY knows you like you know yourself... and nobody ever will. Nobody knows your secrets, deepest fears, previous failures, weaknesses, etc.

Maybe you masturbate six times a day, have never kissed a girl, pick your nose and can't drive stick shift. Nobody you will ever meet for the first time has this knowledge nor has to know any of it. To each and every woman you meet and approach, you are instantly and intrinsically given a clean slate.

Want to create attraction? It can be done the same way you'd find yourself interested in any person. You want to get to know them because you find them down to earth and you enjoy their company.

You can be intrigue anybody by being reserved yet having something interesting to say. Be mysterious, yet approachable. Be firm, but considerate. Be tough, but be friendly. Exude confidence, but be humble.

From there, take any IOIs or body language cues (an invaluable subject to research) and build upon them. Attracting women isn't rocket science. Try and fail. Don't focus on anyone other than yourself. Your happiness and success, not only with women but life in general, will grow exponentially.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tsmith2334 said:
I see a lot of individuals asking what they can do to increase their confidence.Here is something ANY guy can do, even one with absolutely no game/ confidence/ previous experience, etc.

Simply realize that to each and every person you meet, you are essentially a mystery. NOBODY knows you like you know yourself... and nobody ever will. Nobody knows your secrets, deepest fears, previous failures, weaknesses, etc.

Maybe you masturbate six times a day, have never kissed a girl, pick your nose and can't drive stick shift. Nobody you will ever meet for the first time has this knowledge nor has to know any of it. To each and every woman you meet and approach, you are instantly and intrinsically given a clean slate.

Want to create attraction? It can be done the same way you'd find yourself interested in any person. You want to get to know them because you find them down to earth and you enjoy their company.

You can be intrigue anybody by being reserved yet having something interesting to say. Be mysterious, yet approachable. Be firm, but considerate. Be tough, but be friendly. Exude confidence, but be humble.

From there, take any IOIs or body language cues (an invaluable subject to research) and build upon them. Attracting women isn't rocket science. Try and fail. Don't focus on anyone other than yourself. Your happiness and success, not only with women but life in general, will grow exponentially.
I like this tip, thanks. I disagree with the demonstrably inferior strategies (or paths of being) you've named, but the overall tip is charming.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
I see a lot of individuals asking what they can do to increase their confidence.Here is something ANY guy can do, even one with absolutely no game/ confidence/ previous experience, etc.

Simply realize that to each and every person you meet, you are essentially a mystery. NOBODY knows you like you know yourself... and nobody ever will. Nobody knows your secrets, deepest fears, previous failures, weaknesses, etc.

Maybe you masturbate six times a day, have never kissed a girl, pick your nose and can't drive stick shift. Nobody you will ever meet for the first time has this knowledge nor has to know any of it. To each and every woman you meet and approach, you are instantly and intrinsically given a clean slate.

Want to create attraction? It can be done the same way you'd find yourself interested in any person. You want to get to know them because you find them down to earth and you enjoy their company.

You can be intrigue anybody by being reserved yet having something interesting to say. Be mysterious, yet approachable. Be firm, but considerate. Be tough, but be friendly. Exude confidence, but be humble.

From there, take any IOIs or body language cues (an invaluable subject to research) and build upon them. Attracting women isn't rocket science. Try and fail. Don't focus on anyone other than yourself. Your happiness and success, not only with women but life in general, will grow exponentially.
I like this tip, thanks. I disagree with the demonstrably misleading strategies or paths of being you've named (being reserved, mysterious, watching for IOIs and body language, trying to fail,) but the overall tip is charming. And I love "exude confidence but be humble, tough but friendly, firm but considerate. I think you've gotten to the heart of many great secrets with these antonyms.

Izza
 

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izza said:
I like this tip, thanks. I disagree with the demonstrably misleading strategies or paths of being you've named (being reserved, mysterious, watching for IOIs and body language, trying to fail,) but the overall tip is charming. And I love "exude confidence but be humble, tough but friendly, firm but considerate. I think you've gotten to the heart of many great secrets with these antonyms.

Izza
Thanks for the input, I appreciate it. I made a whole thread with tips like these in the general discussion board. Check it out...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=151592
 
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