"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I see a lot of individuals asking what they can do to increase their confidence.Here is something ANY guy can do, even one with absolutely no game/ confidence/ previous experience, etc.

Simply realize that to each and every person you meet, you are essentially a mystery. NOBODY knows you like you know yourself... and nobody ever will. Nobody knows your secrets, deepest fears, previous failures, weaknesses, etc.

Maybe you masturbate six times a day, have never kissed a girl, pick your nose and can't drive stick shift. Nobody you will ever meet for the first time has this knowledge nor has to know any of it. To each and every woman you meet and approach, you are instantly and intrinsically given a clean slate.

Want to create attraction? It can be done the same way you'd find yourself interested in any person. You want to get to know them because you find them down to earth and you enjoy their company.

You can be intrigue anybody by being reserved yet having something interesting to say. Be mysterious, yet approachable. Be firm, but considerate. Be tough, but be friendly. Exude confidence, but be humble.

From there, take any IOIs or body language cues (an invaluable subject to research) and build upon them. Attracting women isn't rocket science. Try and fail. Don't focus on anyone other than yourself. Your happiness and success, not only with women but life in general, will grow exponentially.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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tsmith2334 said:
I see a lot of individuals asking what they can do to increase their confidence.Here is something ANY guy can do, even one with absolutely no game/ confidence/ previous experience, etc.

Simply realize that to each and every person you meet, you are essentially a mystery. NOBODY knows you like you know yourself... and nobody ever will. Nobody knows your secrets, deepest fears, previous failures, weaknesses, etc.

Maybe you masturbate six times a day, have never kissed a girl, pick your nose and can't drive stick shift. Nobody you will ever meet for the first time has this knowledge nor has to know any of it. To each and every woman you meet and approach, you are instantly and intrinsically given a clean slate.

Want to create attraction? It can be done the same way you'd find yourself interested in any person. You want to get to know them because you find them down to earth and you enjoy their company.

You can be intrigue anybody by being reserved yet having something interesting to say. Be mysterious, yet approachable. Be firm, but considerate. Be tough, but be friendly. Exude confidence, but be humble.

From there, take any IOIs or body language cues (an invaluable subject to research) and build upon them. Attracting women isn't rocket science. Try and fail. Don't focus on anyone other than yourself. Your happiness and success, not only with women but life in general, will grow exponentially.
I like this tip, thanks. I disagree with the demonstrably inferior strategies (or paths of being) you've named, but the overall tip is charming.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
I see a lot of individuals asking what they can do to increase their confidence.Here is something ANY guy can do, even one with absolutely no game/ confidence/ previous experience, etc.

Simply realize that to each and every person you meet, you are essentially a mystery. NOBODY knows you like you know yourself... and nobody ever will. Nobody knows your secrets, deepest fears, previous failures, weaknesses, etc.

Maybe you masturbate six times a day, have never kissed a girl, pick your nose and can't drive stick shift. Nobody you will ever meet for the first time has this knowledge nor has to know any of it. To each and every woman you meet and approach, you are instantly and intrinsically given a clean slate.

Want to create attraction? It can be done the same way you'd find yourself interested in any person. You want to get to know them because you find them down to earth and you enjoy their company.

You can be intrigue anybody by being reserved yet having something interesting to say. Be mysterious, yet approachable. Be firm, but considerate. Be tough, but be friendly. Exude confidence, but be humble.

From there, take any IOIs or body language cues (an invaluable subject to research) and build upon them. Attracting women isn't rocket science. Try and fail. Don't focus on anyone other than yourself. Your happiness and success, not only with women but life in general, will grow exponentially.
I like this tip, thanks. I disagree with the demonstrably misleading strategies or paths of being you've named (being reserved, mysterious, watching for IOIs and body language, trying to fail,) but the overall tip is charming. And I love "exude confidence but be humble, tough but friendly, firm but considerate. I think you've gotten to the heart of many great secrets with these antonyms.

Izza
 

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izza said:
I like this tip, thanks. I disagree with the demonstrably misleading strategies or paths of being you've named (being reserved, mysterious, watching for IOIs and body language, trying to fail,) but the overall tip is charming. And I love "exude confidence but be humble, tough but friendly, firm but considerate. I think you've gotten to the heart of many great secrets with these antonyms.

Izza
Thanks for the input, I appreciate it. I made a whole thread with tips like these in the general discussion board. Check it out...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=151592
 
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