You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
yep chicks always give me an 8 in looksbradd80 said:Depends on how good looking you are. If you're a top 5 percenter, and you naturally have girls hitting on you everywhere you go, then the direct approach is best. If you use ****y and funny, you may come across as an arrogant a**hole, especially if you're extremely good looking. However, a playful tease is always fun just make sure you don't overdo it.
Acting humble yet strong, calm yet charismatic, will bring you optimal results.
^This works for me.Fatal Jay said:yep chicks always give me an 8 in looks
I usually do the humble yet confident vibe to the women, always smiling and half flirtious
Renegade357 said:^This works for me.
Being good looking helps but it isn't everything. You still have to do the right things. I'm blessed in that department and I'll say that if you're handsome and look confident/non hungry you will usually have the choice piece of meat. That is if the ratio is decent and there are actually girls to choose from.
I often get hit on and don't need to do much. But that's not always the case. I sometimes have to create opportunities and usually look for signals of interest from girls and then sort of create an moment for us to speak. Either direct approach or I'll go indirect by starting conversations with people around them first. From there I act indifferent to the outcome and just have fun. Let them do most of the talking.
Eventually if I want it to escalate I have to take the shot. If you do things right that's the easy part. They'll be waiting for you to make a move. If you're looking to date them later just get the number then get the F out of dodge. I'm not a big one night stand guy in fact I'm against doing that. That being said I have had several women invite me back to their place. The one night stand girls are usually very direct that they are DTF. If you have half a clue you won't be confused about it.
Yeah let's take the virgins advice! :crackup:Eternal_water said:Rip your shirt off and shout "first cvm first serve"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Many apologies for the dig, but I have a mean sense of humor.Eternal_water said:Your words wound me sir, wound me like a beast.
lol don't worry about it I was kidding.Purefilth said:Many apologies for the dig, but I have a mean sense of humor.
P.s. wounded beasts are rarely healed - putting them out of their misery is the only option.![]()
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
If you're looking for sex, do whatever. If you're looking for a relationship, just be you. If you're not being you, you're putting on an act, and it's hard to act through an entire relationship. Not to mention it's very draining to do that.TDH said:Should it be direct and straight forward or more laid back or ****y funny or what? All opinions welcome
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:Naughty Ninja said:When you're handsome the best approach is smiling from the front. When you aren't handsome the best approach is from the back with a damp rag of chloroform.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.