She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
yep chicks always give me an 8 in looksbradd80 said:Depends on how good looking you are. If you're a top 5 percenter, and you naturally have girls hitting on you everywhere you go, then the direct approach is best. If you use ****y and funny, you may come across as an arrogant a**hole, especially if you're extremely good looking. However, a playful tease is always fun just make sure you don't overdo it.
Acting humble yet strong, calm yet charismatic, will bring you optimal results.
^This works for me.Fatal Jay said:yep chicks always give me an 8 in looks
I usually do the humble yet confident vibe to the women, always smiling and half flirtious
Renegade357 said:^This works for me.
Being good looking helps but it isn't everything. You still have to do the right things. I'm blessed in that department and I'll say that if you're handsome and look confident/non hungry you will usually have the choice piece of meat. That is if the ratio is decent and there are actually girls to choose from.
I often get hit on and don't need to do much. But that's not always the case. I sometimes have to create opportunities and usually look for signals of interest from girls and then sort of create an moment for us to speak. Either direct approach or I'll go indirect by starting conversations with people around them first. From there I act indifferent to the outcome and just have fun. Let them do most of the talking.
Eventually if I want it to escalate I have to take the shot. If you do things right that's the easy part. They'll be waiting for you to make a move. If you're looking to date them later just get the number then get the F out of dodge. I'm not a big one night stand guy in fact I'm against doing that. That being said I have had several women invite me back to their place. The one night stand girls are usually very direct that they are DTF. If you have half a clue you won't be confused about it.
Yeah let's take the virgins advice! :crackup:Eternal_water said:Rip your shirt off and shout "first cvm first serve"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Many apologies for the dig, but I have a mean sense of humor.Eternal_water said:Your words wound me sir, wound me like a beast.
lol don't worry about it I was kidding.Purefilth said:Many apologies for the dig, but I have a mean sense of humor.
P.s. wounded beasts are rarely healed - putting them out of their misery is the only option.![]()
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If you're looking for sex, do whatever. If you're looking for a relationship, just be you. If you're not being you, you're putting on an act, and it's hard to act through an entire relationship. Not to mention it's very draining to do that.TDH said:Should it be direct and straight forward or more laid back or ****y funny or what? All opinions welcome
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:Naughty Ninja said:When you're handsome the best approach is smiling from the front. When you aren't handsome the best approach is from the back with a damp rag of chloroform.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.