"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
when you reject their LJBF attempt...
- Thread starter joker79
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
99% of the time I just ignore them forever and say a quick "hey" or whatever.
I think the real victory was knowing they hold no more power over me and I can laugh my ass off that they passed me up for some loser.
Megaman XIV
Senior Don Juan
The fact is they rejected you first. Of course they act butthurt because you refuse to be their emotional tampon. She still won't bang you though. But she will try to get you as a beta orbiter.joker79 said:
Those are the facts.
Get equipped.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HumbleNinja
Banned
joker79 said:
If you reject their LJBF to you and then they act cold and distant when you bump into them...
They're pissed even though they weren't attracted to you in a more than friends way because they were looking for a sychopant A.K.A an orbiter. You bruised their fragile ego due to you being the one of the many whom they expect to take their LGBF offer with a sh1t eating grin...but didn't.
If you see them? Just smile and say what's up. Don't come off effected by any negative actions or reactions as if whatever they do at that point effects you as they'll pick up the tension between you.
You may wind up talking again and who knows..They may change their minds. But don't hope, worry or count on it. And don't let them try svcker you into their original "offer".
If you get a feel they now want something as they couldn't make you their orbiter then go for it. If it's the same old nonsense they're pulling? Just keep it cordial, and keep it moving.
Or you could just ignore their nonsense period and keep it moving.