BongDuy
Master Don Juan
do you still talk to her? do you say hello to her in the hallways? :crazy:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When you next a girl in the same school...
- Thread starter BongDuy
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
eaglez1177
Master Don Juan
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^exactly. Unless the chick was a b*tch, disrespected you, or any bad feelings between you to, theres nothing wrong with still being friendly around her.
JonDuan
Don Juan
errr no
next means next so probably not. if she did something bad / stupid enough for you to just want to be over her then why would you want to keep contact anyway?
next means next so probably not. if she did something bad / stupid enough for you to just want to be over her then why would you want to keep contact anyway?
Bonafide
Senior Don Juan
if u next her then why the **** do u care wat she thinks
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Analyzeit
Senior Don Juan
Depends on why you next her in my opinion.
Why not say hi in the hallways and have a conversation with her is the question i ask you?
Lets look at the reasons why you would next a girl:
Stood you up a few times
Said LJBF
Cheated/hooked up with your best friend/something like that
Has big boyfriend lol
Just not your type/wanted a full relationship or something like that
completely humiliated you
or the most dreaded
You got attached or get attached to easy.
My point is really, never fully next a girl and stop contact completely unless your some easily attached AFC but also don't let it take up your time, why not have a flirty conversation or even say hi, it's not like it takes up a huge amount of time and it keep her knowing that your there it keeps you an option instead of completely closing your door shut. Girls change their mind all the time, one day you can be a friend next day her minds changed, one day she could want a full relationship the next day she just wants to be pounded.
My point is even if your hardly trying at all, it still gives you a 1% chance or even more. So why not?? what else you got to do with your time? Nothing? then why not.
Any holes a goal guys lol keep these holes open.
Why not say hi in the hallways and have a conversation with her is the question i ask you?
Lets look at the reasons why you would next a girl:
Stood you up a few times
Said LJBF
Cheated/hooked up with your best friend/something like that
Has big boyfriend lol
Just not your type/wanted a full relationship or something like that
completely humiliated you
or the most dreaded
You got attached or get attached to easy.
My point is really, never fully next a girl and stop contact completely unless your some easily attached AFC but also don't let it take up your time, why not have a flirty conversation or even say hi, it's not like it takes up a huge amount of time and it keep her knowing that your there it keeps you an option instead of completely closing your door shut. Girls change their mind all the time, one day you can be a friend next day her minds changed, one day she could want a full relationship the next day she just wants to be pounded.
My point is even if your hardly trying at all, it still gives you a 1% chance or even more. So why not?? what else you got to do with your time? Nothing? then why not.
Any holes a goal guys lol keep these holes open.