"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When you first meet someone, is too much sexual tension destructive?

Deknife

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It seems like I have a harder time when I meet someone, if sexual tension is immediately through the roof, though it's impossible to control emotions like that. I might get a lot of attention and see a change in the other person as soon as I enter the room, but the uncertainty can lead to annoyance, excessive shyness, jealousy and anger: all signs of the each other's effect each other. On the other hand, if there's a little sexual tension, it creates warmth rather than discomfort and frustration, and it's easier to build comfort and flirting and smalltalk is more natural. When you are in the situation, of overwhelming sexual tension, where you see you're having an effect on the other person, how do you build comfort and avoid the negative effects like shyness, hostility and aggression?

It's hard to build comfort let alone think straight when you're mind is bombarded by the feelings of confusion, excitement, stress that goes along with extreme sexual tension. That and it often makes women act really nervous and shy: some females I've talked to will avoid the guy like the plague because they're so nervous and stressed around them. Oh, and how do you handle it if a female expresses the frustration with anger/hostility?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Deknife

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How's saying that extreme sexual frustration can be destructive being a troll? Simply thinking someone's cute or funny and being comfortable flirting often leads to a smoother road. When girl's a really into me sometimes they act shy and sometimes hostile, and can get on my nerves.
 

Zerro

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When a girl acts like this it is a sign of great insecurity and a lack of maturity. In my opinion the ones who behave like this are a waste of time so focus on those who don't behave like "they're afraid you might have cooties."
 
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