"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When you feel yourself losing power... Pull back

Bigdavis

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It works every time. Any time you feel like she's starting to try to get you whipped or that you're losing power in the relationship just stop calling her. Make yourself do something else. Hang out with friends, find something to do, give you phone to your friend and tell him not to let you call her.

It will take her about 36 hours to notice you stopped calling and she'll drive herself crazy wondering why you haven't called.

In no time she'll be blowing your phone up (actually she'll usually send a text because a lot of girls have this thing about calling guys) but she will make contact and instantly you will have all the power back! It's like magic.

I know this has been said before on here but I just wanted to stress how important it is to pull away at the slightest hint of her thinking she's got you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Axcell

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Tried it, but honestly, it depends on the girl. It isn't exactly full-proof. I know an ex-girlfriend who, once I pulled away, lost contact with me as well and started chasing other guys. It only works if you have a very big attraction from the beginning. In short, make sure that from the very start she is absolutely attracted to everything about you, because if she isn't, this will NOT work for you.
 

yogy

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Tried it, but honestly, it depends on the girl. It isn't exactly full-proof. I know an ex-girlfriend who, once I pulled away, lost contact with me as well and started chasing other guys. It only works if you have a very big attraction from the beginning. In short, make sure that from the very start she is absolutely attracted to everything about you, because if she isn't, this will NOT work for you.
Very true (from my own experience :trouble: ).
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Axcell said:
Tried it, but honestly, it depends on the girl. It isn't exactly full-proof. I know an ex-girlfriend who, once I pulled away, lost contact with me as well and started chasing other guys. It only works if you have a very big attraction from the beginning. In short, make sure that from the very start she is absolutely attracted to everything about you, because if she isn't, this will NOT work for you.
More specifically, it has more of a chance of working if you started out calling her all of the time, doing more things for her than you were doing for yourself or if you had stopped spending time with your friends. In a nutshell, if you keep everything in balance the chance of you needing to step back greatly diminishes. If you don't lose control, there will be no need to regain control.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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