When you don't care what happens

[The Duke]

The girl I attempted to go out with on New Years but went by myself after I got tired of waiting has been back in the picture. At the end of January we went out on a date and ended up having sex.

After that I got sick, then was busy and didn’t make any time for her. She sent a few texts explaining how she was upset and I disappointed her and I ignored them.

Last week she asked me to meet her for a movie so I did.

This past Saturday night I was out with my friends drinking. She was texting me thru out the night. So once I was done at the bar, I told her I was going to her house. Within 5minutes I’m in her bed and clothes are coming off. We had some good sechs, fall asleep, she cooks breakfast in the morning and I leave afterwards.

The next day I start getting angry texts on how I manipulated and used her. Lol. She demands that I need to take her out on a nice dinner date to make up for it. Then she tells me she was dating 2 other guys but hadn’t had sex with them YET and was holding out hoping I would commit to her.

After I fail to take her bait and get jealous, she tells me how horrible I am and that she will be going out on Valentines Day with an ADULT, not a man child. And he cares for her and actually wants to spend time with her. Then I hear about how 5 guys on faKebook asked her out. None of this is making a dent in me.

All of this male attention she is getting and the one who cares the least she wants the most. I have little respect for this girl so I don’t care what happens but it’s a good example of the one who cares the least has the most power. I seized the opportunity to act like a 25yo girl would…..flakey/indecisive/non-chalant/hot & cold and it has sent this girl into a tail spin. Rarely am I in a position to be the #1 guy, but its good insight to see what its like. I feel for those other guys, taking this silly girl out, spending money on her, not getting laid(if thats true). I’m sure they are getting the run around as she tries to buy time waiting on me to show more signs that I want something solid.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

The next day I start getting angry texts on how I manipulated and used her. Lol. She demands that I need to take her out on a nice dinner date to make up for it. Then she tells me she was dating 2 other guys but hadn’t had sex with them YET and was holding out hoping I would commit to her.

I really don't understand why women think mentioning other guys they're thinking of shagging instead of me would make me jealous and horny. It's just a turn off for me. It makes me feel vindictive towards them - I feel like replying "Yeah? Go f*** Chad instead then, see ya and enjoy the herpes."

Nonetheless it seems to be classic tactic. So many chicks do it and then seem confused that I'm not falling over myself to see them again.

 

[Billtx49]

I really don't understand why women think mentioning other guys they're thinking of shagging instead of me would make me jealous and horny.
Nonetheless it seems to be classic tactic. So many chicks do it and then seem confused that I'm not falling over myself to see them again.

Yep, she’s verbalizing to you how desireable she is. i.e., how she would tell a female friend and a sign of lower than normal self esteem when she needs to say that to a man. They never consider how differently some men can take that info. Probably works for her on the jealousy leaning majority of men though…

 

[sazc]

She did this to herself.

Man, you run into the most colorful females. Great reads but I'm always SMH.

Hopefully you'll find a quality one that always to you soon.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I really don't understand why women think mentioning other guys they're thinking of shagging instead of me would make me jealous and horny. It's just a turn off for me. It makes me feel vindictive towards them - I feel like replying "Yeah? Go f*** Chad instead then, see ya and enjoy the herpes."

Nonetheless it seems to be classic tactic. So many chicks do it and then seem confused that I'm not falling over myself to see them again.

Some women are actually the same way. They feel bad that you went to another woman and then just give up. Like you, I hate that ****. I refuse to fight over a woman who’s trying to make me fight over her.

 

[BeExcellent]

She did this to herself.

Concur entirely. She devalued herself any number of ways. Why would Howie suddenly treat her with respect?

 

[guru1000]

The next day I start getting angry texts on how I manipulated and used her. Lol. She demands that I need to take her out on a nice dinner date to make up for it. Then she tells me she was dating 2 other guys but hadn’t had sex with them YET and was holding out hoping I would commit to her.

After I fail to take her bait and get jealous, she tells me how horrible I am and that she will be going out on Valentines Day with an ADULT, not a man child. And he cares for her and actually wants to spend time with her. Then I hear about how 5 guys on faKebook asked her out. None of this is making a dent in me.

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Hehe, similar to an ultimatum from her; an overt declaration of weakness. Novice game. She showed her hand real well.

I appreciate looking at covert chick game. Very rarely do I find a worthy adversary.

 

[Trump]

I feel for those other guys, taking this silly girl out, spending money on her, not getting laid(if thats true). I’m sure they are getting the run around as she tries to buy time waiting on me to show more signs that I want something solid.

Careful bro. I did the exact same thing. I thought the girl was deeply deeply deeply in love with me. When I started catching 10% feelings for her, she was already married and pregnant.

Much better to be red pill and alone than blue pill and a family, right?

 

[logicallefty]

A woman trying to make LL jealous by threatening to go out with other dudes? Ha! lol Response would be “Have fun. Now don’t be drunk texting me While out with them. That would be rude and they may not appreciate it.”

 

[marmel75]

"Awesome...at least that will prevent you from fantasizing about me all day...its not healthy to that obsessed about one person..."

 

[Dash Riprock]

When I'm out with a hot woman maybe the first few dates, if she mentions other guys at any point, my response is always, "Great! I hope you date 100 guys in the next few weeks. Because every guy you date is just going to make me look better and better. You know, I may need to dial this back. I think I've set the bar too high for them." 99% of time their response has been, "Yeah, you have set the bar pretty high."

 

[Spaz]

The girl I attempted to go out with on New Years but went by myself after I got tired of waiting has been back in the picture. At the end of January we went out on a date and ended up having sex.

After that I got sick, then was busy and didn’t make any time for her. She sent a few texts explaining how she was upset and I disappointed her and I ignored them.

Last week she asked me to meet her for a movie so I did.

This past Saturday night I was out with my friends drinking. She was texting me thru out the night. So once I was done at the bar, I told her I was going to her house. Within 5minutes I’m in her bed and clothes are coming off. We had some good sechs, fall asleep, she cooks breakfast in the morning and I leave afterwards.

The next day I start getting angry texts on how I manipulated and used her. Lol. She demands that I need to take her out on a nice dinner date to make up for it. Then she tells me she was dating 2 other guys but hadn’t had sex with them YET and was holding out hoping I would commit to her.

After I fail to take her bait and get jealous, she tells me how horrible I am and that she will be going out on Valentines Day with an ADULT, not a man child. And he cares for her and actually wants to spend time with her. Then I hear about how 5 guys on faKebook asked her out. None of this is making a dent in me.

All of this male attention she is getting and the one who cares the least she wants the most. I have little respect for this girl so I don’t care what happens but it’s a good example of the one who cares the least has the most power. I seized the opportunity to act like a 25yo girl would…..flakey/indecisive/non-chalant/hot & cold and it has sent this girl into a tail spin. Rarely am I in a position to be the #1 guy, but its good insight to see what its like. I feel for those other guys, taking this silly girl out, spending money on her, not getting laid(if thats true). I’m sure they are getting the run around as she tries to buy time waiting on me to show more signs that I want something solid.

Bravo !

On a side note;

If u r a western man, did u get to sleep with her when u displayed u r rich, well dress with expensive taste and basically higher SMV?

Or it didn't matter?

 

[Roober]

Good job! Sometimes I wish I crossed paths with loonies like you guys encounter, so I could empathize a bit.

 

[Southbound29]

Anecdote from last night. I'd post a snapshot of the text but I don't know if pics are allowed here. Someone let me know and I'll post. Last night a plate I've been messing with tried to get me to come over and meet her sister. She wanted to show me off. I'm not into it so I said no. she texts back a little while later and tells me another friend is coming over and if I don't come over now then she and he will be going upstairs in a little while.

I respond "use protection" I don't hear a peep from her for 3 hours. I'm not gonna lie, within those three hours I kept getting inklings of beta thoughts telling me I should ping her. I decided to do some studying to get my mind off of her. Three hours later she texts back "I just woke up, I was talking about you".

It was 1 am and the text woke me up so I just texted back "smh" and went back to sleep. She comes by my shop this morning to "get her air checked" in her tires. She was flustered the whole time standing there talking to me. So there it is, You really have to learn and implement *NOT CARING* about the outcome.

 

[marmel75]

Anecdote from last night. I'd post a snapshot of the text but I don't know if pics are allowed here. Someone let me know and I'll post. Last night a plate I've been messing with tried to get me to come over and meet her sister. She wanted to show me off. I'm not into it so I said no. she texts back a little while later and tells me another friend is coming over and if I don't come over now then she and he will be going upstairs in a little while.

I respond "use protection" I don't hear a peep from her for 3 hours. I'm not gonna lie, within those three hours I kept getting inklings of beta thoughts telling me I should ping her. I decided to do some studying to get my mind off of her. Three hours later she texts back "I just woke up, I was talking about you".

It was 1 am and the text woke me up so I just texted back "smh" and went back to sleep. She comes by my shop this morning to "get her air checked" in her tires. She was flustered the whole time standing there talking to me. So there it is, You really have to learn and implement *NOT CARING* about the outcome.

Haha...yeah she just woke up after that dude put her ass to sleep...

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Some women are actually the same way. They feel bad that you went to another woman and then just give up. Like you, I hate that ****. I refuse to fight over a woman who’s trying to make me fight over her.

Exactly. The thing that makes me laugh is said girls don't show me any kind of physical interest or escalation, so I assume they're not interested...but then they're asking to meet, or mentioning legions of other men they might sleep with.

This is like me refusing to hit on a girl I actually like, while also telling her that I want to f*** her unattractive best friend that I hate. Completely ridiculous.

Anecdote from last night. I'd post a snapshot of the text but I don't know if pics are allowed here. Someone let me know and I'll post. Last night a plate I've been messing with tried to get me to come over and meet her sister. She wanted to show me off. I'm not into it so I said no. she texts back a little while later and tells me another friend is coming over and if I don't come over now then she and he will be going upstairs in a little while.

I respond "use protection" I don't hear a peep from her for 3 hours. I'm not gonna lie, within those three hours I kept getting inklings of beta thoughts telling me I should ping her. I decided to do some studying to get my mind off of her. Three hours later she texts back "I just woke up, I was talking about you".

It was 1 am and the text woke me up so I just texted back "smh" and went back to sleep. She comes by my shop this morning to "get her air checked" in her tires. She was flustered the whole time standing there talking to me. So there it is, You really have to learn and implement *NOT CARING* about the outcome.

Wow, wtf? I would dump her arse and go no contact.

Even in a casual relationship, any girl actively threatening you with banging other guys just to make you feel bad has a few screws loose.

 

[Southbound29]

Agreed, and I'll say this, a lot of that behavior is pathological. Some have run slvt jealousy games to me even after I told them previously it would not be effective and I was confused why women thought it would work.

Ok just making sure you understand this girl is sick and is fvking that guy too

It's all good. I get free *****, massages and weed. she's not my main plate. If she leaves so what ?

 

[soulforge]

If a girl threatens me, by saying she will bang another dude.

My response - Great, lets arrange a threesome so we can both tag team you

 

[marmel75]

It's all good. I get free *****, massages and weed. she's not my main plate. If she leaves so what ?

I heard weed gives you ED

 

[Southbound29]

I heard weed gives you ED

Might for some folks.