"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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phoenix_met

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Hi guys
last night me an my buddy hang out to approach some girls.We went to a caffeteria.we sat and i saw a pretty girl who was sitting on the next bench.I started eye contact and she replied.after few minutes her friend went to buy something.I want to go and do something but my legs are locked up.agian and again i looked at her.i smile she smile and ......
but something blocked my way everytime.I am sure that i wouldn't reject but i can't move.every time i want to approach this damned thing stop me.
i don't have any problems with myself.I play tennis and I go to gym everyday,my body is in good shape.i'm one of the top students in high school and .....
i have many friends and I'm not a shy person and i don't have problem with girls at all but when i want to approach one of them all the things change.please help me to break this damned roadblock.i completely mixed up with it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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He is right, it is nothing physical at all, you are just subconsiously afraid. It may not seem it in your mind but somewere deep down inside you are afraid, you just have to tell yourself their is nothing to be afraid of.

It is kinda like, well have you ever seen a cartoon were their is an angle and devel sitting on someones shoulders, well u just have to tell the one with the wrong thoughts to get off your shoulder and out of you mind because you are going to do what you want to do.

I hope that makes sense, it does in my mind.

Kegan
 
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thank guys
I will try your advices tonight and try to force myself to do it
rejection is better than regret.i'll never forget it.I was realy angry last night and you are right if I approach and even reject I will be happier because i higher my rank.

thanks a lot
 
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