"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you are LOCKED!!!

phoenix_met

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Hi guys
last night me an my buddy hang out to approach some girls.We went to a caffeteria.we sat and i saw a pretty girl who was sitting on the next bench.I started eye contact and she replied.after few minutes her friend went to buy something.I want to go and do something but my legs are locked up.agian and again i looked at her.i smile she smile and ......
but something blocked my way everytime.I am sure that i wouldn't reject but i can't move.every time i want to approach this damned thing stop me.
i don't have any problems with myself.I play tennis and I go to gym everyday,my body is in good shape.i'm one of the top students in high school and .....
i have many friends and I'm not a shy person and i don't have problem with girls at all but when i want to approach one of them all the things change.please help me to break this damned roadblock.i completely mixed up with it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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He is right, it is nothing physical at all, you are just subconsiously afraid. It may not seem it in your mind but somewere deep down inside you are afraid, you just have to tell yourself their is nothing to be afraid of.

It is kinda like, well have you ever seen a cartoon were their is an angle and devel sitting on someones shoulders, well u just have to tell the one with the wrong thoughts to get off your shoulder and out of you mind because you are going to do what you want to do.

I hope that makes sense, it does in my mind.

Kegan
 

phoenix_met

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thank guys
I will try your advices tonight and try to force myself to do it
rejection is better than regret.i'll never forget it.I was realy angry last night and you are right if I approach and even reject I will be happier because i higher my rank.

thanks a lot
 
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