When would you drop a F*buddy?

[Starwolf]

I'm still new to the game and trying to make the right choices and stop being a AFC.

So me and this girl are f*ck buddies but we only do it when she has time.
For the rest she only talks to me when she wants something or when she's horny and wants to f*ck.

writing this down makes me feel like i'm the plate she's spinning :cuss: .. wouldn't surprise me if it's true.

I tried for several weeks to meet up with her so we could bang but she was too busy.

so today she sends me a message:

her: Todaaaay!! meet me at 8:30 pm!
me: No, can't today
her: :/
her: whyyy not??
her: please f*ck me
me: why?
her: I'm horny
me: I'm not..
me: maybe later... I'll let u know.
her: :\
her: never mind
her: forget that i even asked.


I don't want to be this girls plate ..and my goal was to turn the tables around.
Am i on the right track?

also another question.. how many of you would not care and still meet up just for the sake of getting laid. (i'm thinking a real Don wouldn't be so desperate for some P*ssy)

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear StormWolf,
When you have finished cutting off your nose to spite your face,all you will have left is Pride,makes a poor Breakfast and a worse Dinner!
What did you prove?I am sure it took her all of five minutes to organise another Likely Lad,who is not so fussy!

 

[Greasy Pig]

Yes, what the fvck was that exchange all about?
You think blowing her off somehow makes you alpha?
Shyt dude, the fact she only wants to fvck you and nothing more is a dream situation.
The key is, you have to spin plates as well. That way, you won't feel like you're just an afterthought for her - she'll be an afterthought for you.

Just bang her well, treat her like a skank and take her down the dark carnal paths she obviously wants to be taken down.
Yes, she merely sees you as "Mr Rent-a-c0ck", but that's perfect. If you think you'd like to make a housewife out of this ho, you're barking up the wrong tree.
Use her as your personal cvm dumpster and be fvcking other women on the side.
Don't see her more than twice a week and be firm on that.

 

[MOTU]

Agreed, this is a good deal for you OP. Take the low effort lay and save your energy for a chick worth keeping around.

Wel, I guess we should ask.. Is she good in bed?

 

[MOTU]

Oh, and to answer your original question, I would drop a fvck buddy when a) she stopped being fun to fvck or b) she started complicating my life.

 

[SgtSplacker]

OP is such a beta that just saying no and taking that little tiny bit of control back from a woman made it all worth while for him.

Listen buddy men are scavengers in this world of sex, you get it while the gettins good. Strike while the irons hot, hit it and quit it. Get it? When your buddy calls you to screw... SCREW her! If she's not making you happy elsewhere, then just keep screwing her man! She's obviously not GF material so she lost that chance with you <== take control over your life here not in the bed.

 

[Alvafe]

ok, dude you make a mistake here, she wanted you only for sex and you are feeling cheap and used, thing is normally, you only drop a FWB when she wants more then just sex and you don't want anything with her, but because you are ****ing her that don't mean you shouldn't find a better girl.

now if you don't want to **** her anymore for whatever reason, it ok drop her, but you are not a plate, she don't looks like she want anything other then sex from, so again you need to ask this, what is the problem to you on all this?

 

[Starwolf]

So in the end it's all about getting laid... doesn't matter how u get it and from
who u get it?

I had this hot girl tell me once if I kiss her feet she would let me be her Boyfriend. I told her to F*ck off.

Was that also a Sh*t move was I too alpha? LoL... I know the goal is to get laid. But damn I should still have some pride after the deed.

 

[MOTU]

So in the end it's all about getting laid... doesn't matter how u get it and from
who u get it?

I had this hot girl tell me once if I kiss her feet she would let me be her Boyfriend. I told her to F*ck off.

Was that also a Sh*t move was I too alpha? LoL... I know the goal is to get laid. But damn I should still have some pride after the deed.

No, getting laid is not the *only* goal... But it is one of the goals. I assume from the tone of your posts that you eventually want to be in a healthy relationship with a quality woman. That's a good thing.

If you already know this girl isn't LTR material, then your (overly simplified) choices are a) forget her b) fvck her every so often while you seek out said quality woman. I prefer the latter is it keeps the little head clearer so the big head can be on the lookout for the quality woman.

 

[Starwolf]

@ Alvafe and samspade

I understand now.
Thanks

 

[Starwolf]

No, getting laid is not the *only* goal... But it is one of the goals. I assume from the tone of your posts that you eventually want to be in a healthy relationship with a quality woman. That's a good thing.

If you already know this girl isn't LTR material, then your (overly simplified) choices are a) forget her b) fvck her every so often while you seek out said quality woman. I prefer the latter is it keeps the little head clearer so the big head can be on the lookout for the quality woman.

You would think... that but i'm not looking for a LTR anymore

I've been jumping from LTR to LTR with so so girls I don't really love.

Even this F*ck buddy is just so so..
Guess i still walk around with this LTR mentality.

Reading the comments here is making me realize that I have still a lot to learn.

 

[zekko]

Yes, what the fvck was that exchange all about?
You think blowing her off somehow makes you alpha?

I don't care for all the game playing, myself.

However, I can definitely see where the OP gets his ideas. "Don't be too available" is a mantra that is repeated here constantly. So he puts that into effect and everybody piles on him. There are a lot of conflicting ideas that are promoted here. There's a time and a place I guess. But again, I just don't care for game playing.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I don't care for all the game playing, myself.

However, I can definitely see where the OP gets his ideas. "Don't be too available" is a mantra that is repeated here constantly. So he puts that into effect and everybody piles on him. There are a lot of conflicting ideas that are promoted here. There's a time and a place I guess. But again, I just don't care for game playing.

Don't care for all the game playing? Heh neither do I bud. I think every one of us here would eventually prefer just being straight up with a girl. Finding a pretty one and just forgetting about game. But that's not the way it works now does it? As soon as she sees you relax, she's out the door riding the next guy gaming her proper. This never ends dude... women=game, saying no game is like saying no to women.

 

[zekko]

But that's not the way it works now does it? As soon as she sees you relax, she's out the door riding the next guy gaming her proper. This never ends dude... women=game, saying no game is like saying no to women.

Meh, that hasn't really been my experience. To me though, there is a difference between "game" and "game playing". "Game" is simply the way that you deal with women. For me, that consists of keeping a strong frame, a good sense of my own value, and playing the masculine role. I don't think there's anything disingenuous about that.

"Game playing" is manipulative bullsh!t that is incongruent with how you really feel. Like the OP pretending to be busy when he wasn't, for example. That stuff I don't think is really necessary. However, I will never fully put my guard down with a woman, I will never fully trust one. Perhaps that is what you mean by relax. I would not (fully) expose my weak side to a woman, but that is just part of being a man, IMO. When you're a man, you suck it up and do what needs to be done, you don't sit around and cry about things.

 

[VladPatton]

When the fück buddy stops fückin, you fückin drop the fück buddy, buddy.

There ya go.