"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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allot of times the stuff that comes out of womens mouths does not go along wwith there actions. why is this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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... is a gross understatement.

If this were not the case, most of us would not be here.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So far in my journey...from my experience so far...I mainly think its in their nature. Women respond to things most emotionally than logically. Hence why she'll say...i like a guy who has a sense of humor. Logically the guy can be the funniest guy on earth but still won't get her. Its the feeling of having her laugh from being attracted is the reason...she can only relate that feeling to laughter. Or a guy who's not nice to her, she calls him an as shole, despite liking him, because she shocked that he's not boring, doesn't take crap from her and not a door mat and the only word she can describe him is as shole. Thats what i think.
 
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OK what about when they say they would never go back to a guy and the next thing you know they are back with him....again
 
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OK what about when they say they would never go back to a guy and the next thing you know they are back with him....again
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Don't you hate it when women do that? I can't honestly tell you why they do that cos I do not. I tend to say what I mean and my actions speak for it as well.
 
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The simple rule of thumb is to ignore what they say and pay attention to their actions. But that kind of unfortunately makes it pointless to listen to women doesn't it? Don't you also love how women will admit that women do that, and they don't know but they always say, "Yes, but I don't. I'm the exception." Then you start thinking, "when have I heard that before?" and you remember again to ignore her words and look at her actions lol. Now is it hard to understand why many guys conclude that women don't know what they want? And that women aren't good for much besides one thing?
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Maybe you just haven't met the one that really is the exception.
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Might be an exception or two somewhere on earth, but since I've lived 25 years and haven't run into one, I can safely conclude that such women are statistically insignificant.
 
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Maybe you just haven't met the one that really is the exception.
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The one or one-itis is a dirty word around here :D .
 
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The one or one-itis is a dirty word around here :D .
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as much as I enjoy nailing tons of chicks it gets old. Lets say say I like having a favorite around or main squeeze. Hows that? Kind of like Hugh Hefners girlfriend Holly.
 
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OK what about when they say they would never go back to a guy and the next thing you know they are back with him....again
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Their ego and pride. They don't want to admit what they truly still are drawn to the guy(Because they're afraid that if they do admit it...that they would look bad) and believe things will work again. Some girls i bet are so helpless when out of a relationship, they just don't care as long as they're in one, to be happy. As long as they don't "say" they like the guy, then they won't think of themselves as worse.
 
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as much as I enjoy nailing tons of chicks it gets old. Lets say say I like having a favorite around or main squeeze. Hows that? Kind of like Hugh Hefners girlfriend Holly.
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In the end, i believe for most guys who do try in the game...that will be the case. Getting a main squeeze.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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allot of times the stuff that comes out of womens mouths does not go along wwith there actions. why is this?
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Cause they have massive amounts of estrogen. a potent hormone that prevents the brain from processing information in a rational manner... That hormone is very important for there reproductive function and enables them to have a hightened emotional capacity essential for taking care of babies...
 
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body language is sometimes different than verbal language .
 
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Estrogen hah? Thats interesting. So your saying that the same chemical that makes them Ilogical is also the same one that makes them a caring nurturer?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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