Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
... is a gross understatement.allot of times
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Don't you hate it when women do that? I can't honestly tell you why they do that cos I do not. I tend to say what I mean and my actions speak for it as well.sosilky said:OK what about when they say they would never go back to a guy and the next thing you know they are back with him....again
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Might be an exception or two somewhere on earth, but since I've lived 25 years and haven't run into one, I can safely conclude that such women are statistically insignificant.TruthSeeker said:Maybe you just haven't met the one that really is the exception.
The one or one-itis is a dirty word around hereTruthSeeker said:Maybe you just haven't met the one that really is the exception.
as much as I enjoy nailing tons of chicks it gets old. Lets say say I like having a favorite around or main squeeze. Hows that? Kind of like Hugh Hefners girlfriend Holly.ketostix said:The one or one-itis is a dirty word around here.
Their ego and pride. They don't want to admit what they truly still are drawn to the guy(Because they're afraid that if they do admit it...that they would look bad) and believe things will work again. Some girls i bet are so helpless when out of a relationship, they just don't care as long as they're in one, to be happy. As long as they don't "say" they like the guy, then they won't think of themselves as worse.sosilky said:OK what about when they say they would never go back to a guy and the next thing you know they are back with him....again
In the end, i believe for most guys who do try in the game...that will be the case. Getting a main squeeze.sosilky said:as much as I enjoy nailing tons of chicks it gets old. Lets say say I like having a favorite around or main squeeze. Hows that? Kind of like Hugh Hefners girlfriend Holly.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Cause they have massive amounts of estrogen. a potent hormone that prevents the brain from processing information in a rational manner... That hormone is very important for there reproductive function and enables them to have a hightened emotional capacity essential for taking care of babies...sosilky said:allot of times the stuff that comes out of womens mouths does not go along wwith there actions. why is this?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.