She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Agree. Flipping it around and making her defensive is always fun. :yes:Jitterbug said:Whatever you say, the key is to realise that it's projection, and nothing irritates her more than 1- it doesn't affect you and 2- you know it's actually about her.
I'd simply ask back: "Does that bother you? Dying single and lonely?"
Oh this is beauuuuuutiful.Jitterbug said:Whatever you say, the key is to realise that it's projection, and nothing irritates her more than 1- it doesn't affect you and 2- you know it's actually about her.
I'd simply ask back: "Does that bother you? Dying single and lonely?"
That's what Putin said to Amerikan media when they shamed him for not allowing anymore adoptions of Russian babies to the US. They shamed him saying, "...but Russia is Poor!"...Putin: "So what?"5string said:When women say this, just look at them and reply, so what?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sadly this is how 99% of people live on EarthPoonani Maker said:That's what Putin said to Amerikan media when they shamed him for not allowing anymore adoptions of Russian babies to the US. They shamed him saying, "...but Russia is Poor!"...Putin: "So what?"
The reason he put in to place these restrictions was because our politicians/media were accusing Russia of "human rights 'violations'."
All these fvckin Americans, it's a disease, whereby Everybody has to IMPOSE their agenda on others. This is called Imperialism, and is what the Constitution was written/signed on to by 13 states, to guard against: Imperialism, or getting into other nations' business. Imperialism, as a mindset, has run amok in our country, it's a sick psychology to own and spread day in and day out in your life, because when you try to impose a set of rules, ideas, words, or doctrine, principles on to another person, you are essentially leaving out the words: "In my opinion" "THIS...you must do...for your own good."
No! in YOUR opinion, I must do this or that. If we lived by a set of WORDS our whole lives we'd not be even human, just a false vapid, soulless, Mindless, carcass of somebody else's ideals.
I like this.5string said:When women say this, just look at them and reply, so what?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Better to be alone than in your company.PlayHer Man said:This is probably the TOP "shaming tactic" women use when a man refuses to bend to her will. Telling him: "he will die single and lonely".
I'm wondering what some of your best "comebacks" are to this attack? For me.. I like to say:
"Women like you make that option very attractive". :crackup:
But I'd like to hear some other great comebacks....
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The man usually dies first, but if they've had a rich life, a woman will die surrounded by her children. I think they find that acceptable.Scaramouche said:They seem to be missing the obvious,that simple Maths will show in any couple one is going to die lonely!
Too bad, Sam. Looks like you've been friendzoned :cuss:samspade said:She kept telling me how sweet I was for helping her.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.