I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
Looks only matter if you're a person who can't see beyond the surface of things.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
No, actually the opposite. He had a hot wife...and fans on the street (his own fans) taunted the wife and asked why she was with him.Forty0ztoFreedom said:Why did you post a random picture of Kevin Youkilis?
Don't tell me its another "look at this average looking millionaire! He gets girls1 looks don't matter" thing.
I like it. now does any of this freaking matter? Is the looks or personality debate REALLY going to make a bit of difference in anyones life?ArcBound said:"Maxim #463: Do not underestimate the rapidity with which a woman will jettison her conventional mate criteria when exposed to the attentions of a charismatic man."
backbreaker said:lol do you know how hard it is for a guy to be under a 5 lol? a GUY BASICALLY HAS TO BE GANGRAPED with the ugly stick to be under a 5.
There is a quote that I apply to women, can be applied to men. there are not unattractive women, just lazy ones. Any woman can be attractive if she works at it. Same for men. Somme are blessed to have certain physical aspects others don't have but any man that gives a **** about his appearance can be a 7 if he works at it. And a 7 is never out of the competition
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Of course! Cosmo is where i get all my seduction and relationship advice! Don't you??georgie24 said:alot of metrosexuals in this thread, you guys read cosmo too?
Yeah, I've heard the same **** at parties when women aren't inhibited by the social conventions normally keeping them from speaking their minds. Alcohol or drugs are a great lubricant for allowing such honesty.Any guy who says looks don't matter has never overheard females talking to each other. When women are talking in a group about a guy, you hear things like:
Is he tall? Is he cute? Is he hot? Is he athletic?
I cringe when I hear that women are LESS into looks than men. I believe women are MORE into looks than men ever will be. (Of course money and status can compensate.)
Another way to look at is this: at a strip club, the men looking at the hot dancer are relatively calm. At a male strip show, the women go absolutely crazy. Tell me who is more hung up on looks.
Lastly, remember that when it's last call at the bar, a man's standards go down, but a female's standards go up.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Interesting. Within 5 minutes? I have heard this before and if that's the case, the whole process pretty much makes seduction and game redundant.People who say looks don't matter are either in denial or are selling some pua material.
A woman knows within 5 minutes of meeting you whether she'll f**k you. If you don't have the looks, more than likely the girl has a hidden agenda, meaning she's trying to boost her ego, get you in a platonic relationship, keep you as someone to diktease, see how much she can get from your wallet, etc. Personality and game come after the girl gives you a chance.
Falcon 25 has made a realist post!
I've seen this thread. Inspiring stuff. It also mentions general day to day treatment from both genders. Although, it is a 100+ page plus thread if anyone is interested.Its shameful how far "looks don't matter" has gotten, and its infuriating when you realize the "looks don't matter" crowd is talking about people less attractive than Brad Pitt.
Seriously. They'll ramble on and on and on about "looks don't matter", and they're really talking about some average guy that maybe just doesn't look like a fvcking ADONIS.
Meanwhile the 300 pound dude trades in his treadmill for a collection E-BOOKS!
Its infuriating to me. Its not defeatist, its just being real. And once you accept the fact that LOOKS MATTER you can actually start GETTING SOMEWHERE!
I've said this before, but go to bodybuilding.com and read the thread "Were you treated differently after losing a lot of weight." Its just as inspiring as the DJ Bible.
Jesus man, you're everywhere on this forum. Spreading the good word I see.I'd like to see an experiment done online with the same profile and different photo - one with a guy who is a 6, one with a guy who is a 9. See how many replies are received for both.
I know looks matter because on nights when I'm at my best, women approach me, and on nights when I'm not, they don't.
Some girls (especially young and/or immature women) insist that a guy be extremely good looking. A recent ex-gf never really treated me right because her 2 previous boyfriends were supermodels (granted they dumped her).
Bingo! Cute or not bad looking doesn't mean much. Women are sheep/herd creatures, and more often than not, if you're good looking ****able right off the bat, they'll use terminology that is rife in pop culture......i.e. Hot!. . A girl calling a guy "cute" doesn't mean sh!t.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.