"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When was the last time you cuddled?

Die Hard

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Be honest :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Saturday. I like to bang it out animal style, take a quick nap/cuddle and bang it out some more, nap again. Rinse and repeat as many times as necessary.
 

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Sunday. Fell asleep at 1 in the morning while trying to break through LMR. Woke up at 445am the previous day, had a full day at work, and drove 5 hours to this chick's place. Accidentally cuddled.
 

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Ummm, I specifically wanted to hear the Mature Men's responses to my question, not the Anything Else people's responses

Furthermore, the subject is about women/relationships/love/sex/etcetera, it is NOT about anything else, so put the thread back where it belongs?

Some mods nowaydays :down:
 

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I can't even remember the last time I cuddled with a human woman. I used to think it was "getting in good" with a chosen woman to cuddle, way in the past, but have learned otherwise over the years. I used to cuddle with my dog all the time but she died several years ago. I can't even stand feet touching in bed these days or even trying to sleep in the same bed for a whole night. They are just too damn hot and suck all the coolness out of you when sleeping. You wake up sweating and panting for no reason and it's because she has her leg on you heating you up. LOL.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I don't know about cuddling, but I do always spoon, I spooned two nights ago.
 

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I like cuddling right after a shower or when its really freaking cold out. After I steal her heat, I kick her out of bed. During the summer I build a pillow wall between my wife and I, her body heats up like volcano for some reason.
 

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Whales tend to produce body heat bro, lol just kidding man.
 

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^ Ha ha. I last cuddled last summer. I'm going through a dry spell.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Die Hard said:
Ummm, I specifically wanted to hear the Mature Men's responses to my question, not the Anything Else people's responses

Furthermore, the subject is about women/relationships/love/sex/etcetera, it is NOT about anything else, so put the thread back where it belongs?

Some mods nowaydays :down:
Reasonable request. It fits here in MM. Moved.
 

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Dear DieHard,
It was after my first Day at School...The big Boys gave me a hard time...Dear Old Mummsie wiped my tears away and gave me a big cuddle!
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Reasonable request. It fits here in MM. Moved.
Thanks. It's an honest question, just as the thread about making love.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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5 years ago. Seriously. My hook ups since have been ONS, exs or random drunken hook ups. Either way I've been out the door as soon as I bust. Been in a dry spell for a long time and honestly I don't have the time or inclination to cuddle. I came here to do a job and get it done and move on to the next thing I have to do.

I'm starting to think I have been come incapable of feeling the softer emotions outside of greed, anger, hatred and disgust. I can feel admiration and awe, but the whole love and cuddly crap, I can't feel it in me any more.
 

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Actually just cuddled with my wife after banging her, the other thing that usually happens is I let one rip right after, today was no exception. :up:

Happy Valentines Day!
 

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LiveFreeX said:
Actually just cuddled with my wife after banging her, the other thing that usually happens is I let one rip right after, today was no exception. :up:

Happy Valentines Day!
You had to cuddle because you only lasted 2 minutes and felt bad. You banging raw no BC?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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