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Turned down/rejected/discarded a chick?

It seems there is a lot of talk about guys chasing and pursuing women on here. On the flip side, we should have high standards and we should be making them validate themselves and not vise versa.

Even though I am a rotation guy, I still have the same standards for plates that I spin as I would someone I would be in a relationship with, if I wanted a relationship.

I find myself denying women, not "pursuing" to show my own worth. If I am on the fence about a chick entering my rotation and she does something that I dont like, I simply tell her that I'm not sure that we are a good match because I am looking for something slightly different on an attraction/personality/feminine scale.

This drives them nuts. Most of them come back harder than before. But I discard or turn down women. If they are not better than what I am spinning in numerous ways, why would I waste my time?

Think about that. Instead of you validating yourself, you actually discard a chick that is interested in you. Do you realize what that does? It makes you value yourself more, have higher standards, and if that chick you discarded was really interested and you discarded her based on her doing something that you were not ok with, she will quickly adjust her behavior and shoot another shot with you.

Too many "did I mess this up with her?", "Is she interested in me?", "what can I do to sleep with her?" threads. That is the opposite of abundance. Fvvvvvccckkkkk that.
She got mad because you didnt text back in 10 minutes? Tell her she is slightly different than what you are looking for because you are a busy man.

She got mad because you did so and so? Ok.....bye bye. I literally dont have time to argue about it. Cya

You should be asking yourself "Does this chick fit the bill as to what I am looking for with my intent?" and move on from there.

I am not gloating, just keeping it real. If you are the prize, why do you continue to reach for scraps out of the dumpster from some of these chicks? Until you "get" what I am saying, you'll continue to struggle.

Happy hunting.
 

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Turned down/rejected/discarded a chick?

It seems there is a lot of talk about guys chasing and pursuing women on here. On the flip side, we should have high standards and we should be making them validate themselves and not vise versa
This includes not going backwards because of desperation. Or letting an old love mess with us. Yes way to much chasing going on.
A lot of this chasing is happening through the phone.
Not patient enough. There's some really full of shyt posts on this forum as well besides the chasing.
 

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I agree @stringpuller

Moving ahead and making real progress does nothing if its one step forward and 2 steps back.

That is why I marvel a rotation so much. The goal is to keep 3 solid chicks spinning. There are also orbiters who want a shot. One acts up, she gooonnnnnneeeeee. The end result is to always be improving that rotation. Some may start with 3 7's and end up with 4 9's. But there should always be an improvement.

I wouldnt trade a perfectly good newer vehicle in for a piece of shyte with miles on it. Same goes for women.

Its about upgrading when needed, never down grading.
 
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Pretty much every month I drop one out of the rotation, but not so much rejecting, more ghosting. My relationsh--s rarely get serious enough to actually have a break up talk.
 

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Often but more before we even date, like I don't let it get that far usually. As far as ending short term things, they can just tell im not too into it and self selct our.t.
 

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Think about that. Instead of you validating yourself, you actually discard a chick that is interested in you. Do you realize what that does? It makes you value yourself more, have higher standards, and if that chick you discarded was really interested and you discarded her based on her doing something that you were not ok with, she will quickly adjust her behavior and shoot another shot with you.

Too many "did I mess this up with her?", "Is she interested in me?", "what can I do to sleep with her?" threads. That is the opposite of abundance. Fvvvvvccckkkkk that.
She got mad because you didnt text back in 10 minutes? Tell her she is slightly different than what you are looking for because you are a busy man.

She got mad because you did so and so? Ok.....bye bye. I literally dont have time to argue about it. Cya

You should be asking yourself "Does this chick fit the bill as to what I am looking for with my intent?" and move on from there.

I am not gloating, just keeping it real. If you are the prize, why do you continue to reach for scraps out of the dumpster from some of these chicks? Until you "get" what I am saying, you'll continue to struggle.

Happy hunting.
I see what you are saying, but for men who want kids, I wouldnt recommend discarding unless a girl does something major.

What’s better to tell people?

‘I don’t have a daughter but I’m alpha.”
‘I have a daughter but had to qualify myself to her.”

In my opinion, much better to have a daughter and take hits from her, than being “the man” and being alone.
 

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I see what you are saying, but for men who want kids, I wouldnt recommend discarding unless a girl does something major.

What’s better to tell people?

‘I don’t have a daughter but I’m alpha.”
‘I have a daughter but had to qualify myself to her.”

In my opinion, much better to have a daughter and take hits from her, than being “the man” and being alone.
The whole point of the original post is that high standards and a solid rotation will result in several women who are candidates for LTR or marriage IF that’s what a man wants.

The attitude contained therein covertly communicates that this is a high value sought after man. There is no lack or desperation or fixation on one particular woman. This is a vibe that radiates from a man and daws people (not just women) to him.

Your post is espousing putting up with bad behavior from a place of lack to get something you want (marriage or at least children). That will not work and is how all these disillusioned men end up in stultifying dead relationships and they don’t know how they got there.

Value yourself and become or strive toward becoming your best version of yourself. This draws people in. Lack repulses people.

I date men that MANY women swoon over. And I date with that same attitude. I’m a great gal with lots to offer. I trust that men see my value and that they will stay engaged in an interaction because they like me and appreciate the ways I add to their lives. It’s more than looks. It’s a confidence that radiates out & draws people (not just men) toward me.

I never worry too much about whether a man likes me. If he does his actions will make it clear. My responses will make my interest similarly clear. As long as both people are selecting one another and investing in the interaction things progress naturally.

As relationships develop things become more nuanced. You allow for shortcomings and the fact that we are all human, but you also keep your standards and your self respect along the way.

But that is more reserved for an exclusive relationship.

Glassguy is giving advice that helps you prune and cull your stable so all your women are solid relationship candidates. Then if you choose to go that route you pick the best total fit for you. And she’ll know she had to earn it and that will go a long way to keeping you in the leadership role.
 

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The whole point of the original post is that high standards and a solid rotation will result in several women who are candidates for LTR or marriage IF that’s what a man wants.

The attitude contained therein covertly communicates that this is a high value sought after man. There is no lack or desperation or fixation on one particular woman. This is a vibe that radiates from a man and daws people (not just women) to him.

Your post is espousing putting up with bad behavior from a place of lack to get something you want (marriage or at least children). That will not work and is how all these disillusioned men end up in stultifying dead relationships and they don’t know how they got there.

Value yourself and become or strive toward becoming your best version of yourself. This draws people in. Lack repulses people.

I date men that MANY women swoon over. And I date with that same attitude. I’m a great gal with lots to offer. I trust that men see my value and that they will stay engaged in an interaction because they like me and appreciate the ways I add to their lives. It’s more than looks. It’s a confidence that radiates out & draws people (not just men) toward me.

I never worry too much about whether a man likes me. If he does his actions will make it clear. My responses will make my interest similarly clear. As long as both people are selecting one another and investing in the interaction things progress naturally.

As relationships develop things become more nuanced. You allow for shortcomings and the fact that we are all human, but you also keep your standards and your self respect along the way.

But that is more reserved for an exclusive relationship.

Glassguy is giving advice that helps you prune and cull your stable so all your women are solid relationship candidates. Then if you choose to go that route you pick the best total fit for you. And she’ll know she had to earn it and that will go a long way to keeping you in the leadership role.
I agree with everything you said, as long as you get a kid from her first.

To be high value and screen and screen and screen, without getting a child from her, to what end?

I would say just get a daughter from a relatively stable and normal woman first, then screen better than Prince Harry.
 

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I just met 4 chicks. Two from Czech Republic, two from Honduras. Let's see how it goes.
 

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Turned down/rejected/discarded a chick?

It seems there is a lot of talk about guys chasing and pursuing women on here. On the flip side, we should have high standards and we should be making them validate themselves and not vise versa.

Even though I am a rotation guy, I still have the same standards for plates that I spin as I would someone I would be in a relationship with, if I wanted a relationship.

I find myself denying women, not "pursuing" to show my own worth. If I am on the fence about a chick entering my rotation and she does something that I dont like, I simply tell her that I'm not sure that we are a good match because I am looking for something slightly different on an attraction/personality/feminine scale.

This drives them nuts. Most of them come back harder than before. But I discard or turn down women. If they are not better than what I am spinning in numerous ways, why would I waste my time?

Think about that. Instead of you validating yourself, you actually discard a chick that is interested in you. Do you realize what that does? It makes you value yourself more, have higher standards, and if that chick you discarded was really interested and you discarded her based on her doing something that you were not ok with, she will quickly adjust her behavior and shoot another shot with you.

Too many "did I mess this up with her?", "Is she interested in me?", "what can I do to sleep with her?" threads. That is the opposite of abundance. Fvvvvvccckkkkk that.
She got mad because you didnt text back in 10 minutes? Tell her she is slightly different than what you are looking for because you are a busy man.

She got mad because you did so and so? Ok.....bye bye. I literally dont have time to argue about it. Cya

You should be asking yourself "Does this chick fit the bill as to what I am looking for with my intent?" and move on from there.

I am not gloating, just keeping it real. If you are the prize, why do you continue to reach for scraps out of the dumpster from some of these chicks? Until you "get" what I am saying, you'll continue to struggle.

Happy hunting.
I agree with everything you’re saying 110%, at the end of the day we are the prize and we are the one who have more to offer in the long run. But understand this, not every guy here is going to have the same sexual opportunities you have or others do. Because there’s certain circumstances to it. When you have options and you know how to create those options, you don’t care if one chick drops off, your criteria becomes higher and tighter. And it promotes an undeniable self confidence. Compared to the guy who hasn’t gone on a date in one year due to certain circumstances and it’s sexually frustrated. I see both side of the coin
Cheers
 

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Turned down/rejected/discarded a chick?

It seems there is a lot of talk about guys chasing and pursuing women on here. On the flip side, we should have high standards and we should be making them validate themselves and not vise versa.

Even though I am a rotation guy, I still have the same standards for plates that I spin as I would someone I would be in a relationship with, if I wanted a relationship.

I find myself denying women, not "pursuing" to show my own worth. If I am on the fence about a chick entering my rotation and she does something that I dont like, I simply tell her that I'm not sure that we are a good match because I am looking for something slightly different on an attraction/personality/feminine scale.

This drives them nuts. Most of them come back harder than before. But I discard or turn down women. If they are not better than what I am spinning in numerous ways, why would I waste my time?

Think about that. Instead of you validating yourself, you actually discard a chick that is interested in you. Do you realize what that does? It makes you value yourself more, have higher standards, and if that chick you discarded was really interested and you discarded her based on her doing something that you were not ok with, she will quickly adjust her behavior and shoot another shot with you.

Too many "did I mess this up with her?", "Is she interested in me?", "what can I do to sleep with her?" threads. That is the opposite of abundance. Fvvvvvccckkkkk that.
She got mad because you didnt text back in 10 minutes? Tell her she is slightly different than what you are looking for because you are a busy man.

She got mad because you did so and so? Ok.....bye bye. I literally dont have time to argue about it. Cya

You should be asking yourself "Does this chick fit the bill as to what I am looking for with my intent?" and move on from there.

I am not gloating, just keeping it real. If you are the prize, why do you continue to reach for scraps out of the dumpster from some of these chicks? Until you "get" what I am saying, you'll continue to struggle.

Happy hunting.
I was just thinking about starting a 'Value of learning to say NO' thread.

When i was in middle school, and the other boys were lying about having already had sex, I was saying NO to girls. One of my friends even got mad at me, at a party, because this girl he wanted to have sex with(his first) wouldn't concent, unless I agreed have sex with her classmate, who had a crush on me. My friend didn't get laid that night. By the time i finally got laid, i had already turned down a dozen girls other guys would have begged for. I just wasn't in any hurry to just cross that off my list. I never have been, and neither should any other guy be. There's a lot of talk about pedestalizing a partial woman, but pedestalizing pu55y, in general, is lethal for men.

All this plate spinning sounds like a lot of work, and I've always been lazy, where women are concerned. I think the problem with the advice you're giving is that too many guys will take it as game theory(e.g., "do X and she'll do Y"), and having standards isn't about demanding conformity; it's about gently pulling the plug when your standards aren't met, with no hard feelings. When you articulate your standards to a woman, you are ASKING for compliance. When you make passive-aggressive "threats," you are HOPING for compliance. That isn't a genuine ''abundance mindset"; that's just bluffing, for most guys, and they'll be emotionally invested when the girl doesn't comply, or requires constant prodding for compliance.

All I'm saying is that no-one owes you anything, not even a girl you shouldn't be spending your money on, in the first place. So, don't demand anything. She's either maintenance-free or she isn't. The girl making YOU jump through a million hoops is going to be jumping through hoops for someone else. Just drop her cold. COLD, not hot. No anger. Don't wait for her to call the next day. Out of sight, out of mind.
 
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And she’ll know she had to earn it and that will go a long way to keeping you in the leadership role.
Absolutely! If a woman can endure being in my rotation (her choice) I know she is as invested as much as one woman can be. If I then choose to begin an exclusive relationship with her, she knows in the back of her mind that I will have no issues getting women if she acts disrespectful. She will also be far more likely to walk a tight line with me because of this during a relationship.

A rotation makes a woman crave the time she gets with a man. It also makes her extremely loyal IMO.
 

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A rotation makes a woman crave the time she gets with a man. It also makes her extremely loyal IMO.
It also causes her to drop a fresh cooked meal off to your pad while your out getting your azz grabbed. Ready to eat when you get home. Lol
 

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I average about one a year

I had a teenager (of legal age) invite me to her house last weekend

I just couldn't do it. Even with everything I know about redpill

I just couldn't abandon what little morals I have left
 

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As above, morals.

Two weeks ago. HB 6/10 - not that she wasn't doable. She was really nice person, but 6/10s are below my standards in looks aspect usually and I didn't want to hurt her by dumping her after few dates. She just wasn't experienced in co.ckcarousel and I don't want to phuckdump decent person.

Now, professional c.ockcarousel users - that's a different thing entirely.
 

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Turned down/rejected/discarded a chick?

It seems there is a lot of talk about guys chasing and pursuing women on here. On the flip side, we should have high standards and we should be making them validate themselves and not vise versa.

Even though I am a rotation guy, I still have the same standards for plates that I spin as I would someone I would be in a relationship with, if I wanted a relationship.

I find myself denying women, not "pursuing" to show my own worth. If I am on the fence about a chick entering my rotation and she does something that I dont like, I simply tell her that I'm not sure that we are a good match because I am looking for something slightly different on an attraction/personality/feminine scale.

This drives them nuts. Most of them come back harder than before. But I discard or turn down women. If they are not better than what I am spinning in numerous ways, why would I waste my time?

Think about that. Instead of you validating yourself, you actually discard a chick that is interested in you. Do you realize what that does? It makes you value yourself more, have higher standards, and if that chick you discarded was really interested and you discarded her based on her doing something that you were not ok with, she will quickly adjust her behavior and shoot another shot with you.

Too many "did I mess this up with her?", "Is she interested in me?", "what can I do to sleep with her?" threads. That is the opposite of abundance. Fvvvvvccckkkkk that.
She got mad because you didnt text back in 10 minutes? Tell her she is slightly different than what you are looking for because you are a busy man.

She got mad because you did so and so? Ok.....bye bye. I literally dont have time to argue about it. Cya

You should be asking yourself "Does this chick fit the bill as to what I am looking for with my intent?" and move on from there.

I am not gloating, just keeping it real. If you are the prize, why do you continue to reach for scraps out of the dumpster from some of these chicks? Until you "get" what I am saying, you'll continue to struggle.

Happy hunting.
i did few months back, because she hinted on marriage and I noticed she had alot of issues like parents and life in all.. I just stepped back lol.. but i do think of her boobs now and then.. :(
 

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Rejected all but two. Had girls sit in my bed staring at me to make a move but I flat out told her I know what she’s doing and kicked her ass out
I did this too when I was in college. I regretted it. When she came back, she was no longer interested. why would you reject a woman once she is in bed. That is like working for all and getting nothing in return.
 

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I wonder a women with a genuine self worth value / self esteem participate herself in a rotation? I don't think so..

I suggest that only a women without an inner compass will do so out of social proof.
 

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I wonder a women with a genuine self worth value / self esteem participate herself in a rotation? I don't think so..

I suggest that only a women without an inner compass will do so out of social proof.
Typically, they do not know..... If they learn they brake up easily.
 
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