"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When to Stop?

ssj245

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I have a friend in my college class whom I've had convo with and HE seems pretty cool and I even offered time where we could hang out and do stuff together. But he never take initiatives or reposnds back.

I feel insulted that I am offering my hand in friendship but its not being reciporcated.

We had made a few plans for the weekends a few times and I called and he always said he was tired or already had something planned out to do.

Then I made some plans and waited for him to call to see if he wanted friendship.

It just pisses me off when I make an effort to be nice and I dont get some reponse back.

He's nice in person, and talks and is funny and but tends to forget about you after your out of sight. Im trying to build a social circle and this seems like I've hit a road block with this one.

Im not sure If I should continue to make offers or not or just forget about it and not think about hanging out again?

I've kind of conveyed this to him but...I know that seems wussy and *****y so Im not gonna say much more.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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chickenlegs03

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ssj245 said:
I have a friend in my college class whom I've had convo with and HE seems pretty cool and I even offered time where we could hang out and do stuff together. But he never take initiatives or reposnds back.

I feel insulted that I am offering my hand in friendship but its not being reciporcated.

We had made a few plans for the weekends a few times and I called and he always said he was tired or already had something planned out to do.

Then I made some plans and waited for him to call to see if he wanted friendship.

It just pisses me off when I make an effort to be nice and I dont get some reponse back.

He's nice in person, and talks and is funny and but tends to forget about you after your out of sight. Im trying to build a social circle and this seems like I've hit a road block with this one.

Im not sure If I should continue to make offers or not or just forget about it and not think about hanging out again?

I've kind of conveyed this to him but...I know that seems wussy and *****y so Im not gonna say much more.
I'm the same way to other people. So he could just be busy and stuff.

I have a couple people who call to hang out or party or go eat or do this or that, and I usually have to decline. And I don't like to but with my busy schedule, I really can't afford to hang out much.

I actually hate turning people down too much nowadays because it's tough to do it without coming off like 'you've got better things to do than hang out with them' which is actually true, but I still feel bad when I do.

So...my advice would be talk to more people. Find people in your classes to study with. That's a real easy way to expand your social circle, I do this all the time myself, or at least, I used to (now I just study with them). But if you do study with others, you can easily lead this to going out to eat or partying later.
 

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he's just not that into you
 

dannowillbookem

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i have a bud i have a weird friendship with...we were friends, but now he's kind of an ******* and ive been in the hosptal/recovering and he bought me a pack of cigs but never brings it over and always forgets about it and doesnt answer his phone.

i think he's just not that into me. same for you.
 
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