Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When to Stop?

ssj245

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I have a friend in my college class whom I've had convo with and HE seems pretty cool and I even offered time where we could hang out and do stuff together. But he never take initiatives or reposnds back.

I feel insulted that I am offering my hand in friendship but its not being reciporcated.

We had made a few plans for the weekends a few times and I called and he always said he was tired or already had something planned out to do.

Then I made some plans and waited for him to call to see if he wanted friendship.

It just pisses me off when I make an effort to be nice and I dont get some reponse back.

He's nice in person, and talks and is funny and but tends to forget about you after your out of sight. Im trying to build a social circle and this seems like I've hit a road block with this one.

Im not sure If I should continue to make offers or not or just forget about it and not think about hanging out again?

I've kind of conveyed this to him but...I know that seems wussy and *****y so Im not gonna say much more.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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chickenlegs03

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ssj245 said:
I have a friend in my college class whom I've had convo with and HE seems pretty cool and I even offered time where we could hang out and do stuff together. But he never take initiatives or reposnds back.

I feel insulted that I am offering my hand in friendship but its not being reciporcated.

We had made a few plans for the weekends a few times and I called and he always said he was tired or already had something planned out to do.

Then I made some plans and waited for him to call to see if he wanted friendship.

It just pisses me off when I make an effort to be nice and I dont get some reponse back.

He's nice in person, and talks and is funny and but tends to forget about you after your out of sight. Im trying to build a social circle and this seems like I've hit a road block with this one.

Im not sure If I should continue to make offers or not or just forget about it and not think about hanging out again?

I've kind of conveyed this to him but...I know that seems wussy and *****y so Im not gonna say much more.
I'm the same way to other people. So he could just be busy and stuff.

I have a couple people who call to hang out or party or go eat or do this or that, and I usually have to decline. And I don't like to but with my busy schedule, I really can't afford to hang out much.

I actually hate turning people down too much nowadays because it's tough to do it without coming off like 'you've got better things to do than hang out with them' which is actually true, but I still feel bad when I do.

So...my advice would be talk to more people. Find people in your classes to study with. That's a real easy way to expand your social circle, I do this all the time myself, or at least, I used to (now I just study with them). But if you do study with others, you can easily lead this to going out to eat or partying later.
 

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he's just not that into you
 

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i have a bud i have a weird friendship with...we were friends, but now he's kind of an ******* and ive been in the hosptal/recovering and he bought me a pack of cigs but never brings it over and always forgets about it and doesnt answer his phone.

i think he's just not that into me. same for you.
 
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