Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When to stop punishing a woman?

LinkinParkROX

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My girlfriend is being a huge ***** right now, dishing out a whole lot of disrespect. So as any Don Juan would, I'm punishing her by withdrawing my attention & affection. I'm basically going No Contact. When should I stop so that I give her a sense of "okay, you're forgiven! don't do it again!"? I certainly don't want to go too long until she gets bored of me, you know? Help, please!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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loveshogun

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You're a fan of Linkin Park, so this explains a lot already.

Your relationship, or at least the parts of it you decided to mention, sounds pretty destructive for both members. I vote you end it.
 

LinkinParkROX

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What are you basing the above **** on? You know nothing of my relationship besides what I've mentioned here. All relationships have arguments, moments when the female and male parties disagree. It's healthy. This discussion board is a place where people give & get help. Not judge and be petty. If you have nothing useful to say, I'd suggest not saying anything at all. Good day sir!
 

loveshogun

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LinkinParkROX said:
My girlfriend is being a huge ***** right now, dishing out a whole lot of disrespect. So as any Don Juan would, I'm punishing her by withdrawing my attention & affection. I'm basically going No Contact.

And, based on that, I vote you break up.

As much as you might think, healthy relationships that have disagreements rarely lead to a guy calling his girlfriend a "huge b*tch" on a message board, and then him giving her the silent treatment until she backs down.

If you were giving advice to another guy who came onto this board and said the exact same thing, what would YOU say?

Good day to YOU, sir. You need them more than I do.
 

Scars

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Whenever my ex was being a b!tch I would just withdraw all my attention until she came to me. The first thing I would then say to her was "Are you done giving me an attitude now?" and it always worked for me. It's a nice, but also FIRM way to let her know you won't stand for her sh!t. For the most part, she always said "Yes." then got all cutesy with me again. Other times, we ended up having a much needed talk (communication is important in relationships). So if your gf is acting up she probably has something on her mind, or in my case she was just a crazy BPD b!tch. :)

Good luck man.

-Scars
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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