"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When to stop punishing a woman?

LinkinParkROX

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My girlfriend is being a huge ***** right now, dishing out a whole lot of disrespect. So as any Don Juan would, I'm punishing her by withdrawing my attention & affection. I'm basically going No Contact. When should I stop so that I give her a sense of "okay, you're forgiven! don't do it again!"? I certainly don't want to go too long until she gets bored of me, you know? Help, please!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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loveshogun

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You're a fan of Linkin Park, so this explains a lot already.

Your relationship, or at least the parts of it you decided to mention, sounds pretty destructive for both members. I vote you end it.
 

LinkinParkROX

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What are you basing the above **** on? You know nothing of my relationship besides what I've mentioned here. All relationships have arguments, moments when the female and male parties disagree. It's healthy. This discussion board is a place where people give & get help. Not judge and be petty. If you have nothing useful to say, I'd suggest not saying anything at all. Good day sir!
 

loveshogun

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LinkinParkROX said:
My girlfriend is being a huge ***** right now, dishing out a whole lot of disrespect. So as any Don Juan would, I'm punishing her by withdrawing my attention & affection. I'm basically going No Contact.

And, based on that, I vote you break up.

As much as you might think, healthy relationships that have disagreements rarely lead to a guy calling his girlfriend a "huge b*tch" on a message board, and then him giving her the silent treatment until she backs down.

If you were giving advice to another guy who came onto this board and said the exact same thing, what would YOU say?

Good day to YOU, sir. You need them more than I do.
 

Scars

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Whenever my ex was being a b!tch I would just withdraw all my attention until she came to me. The first thing I would then say to her was "Are you done giving me an attitude now?" and it always worked for me. It's a nice, but also FIRM way to let her know you won't stand for her sh!t. For the most part, she always said "Yes." then got all cutesy with me again. Other times, we ended up having a much needed talk (communication is important in relationships). So if your gf is acting up she probably has something on her mind, or in my case she was just a crazy BPD b!tch. :)

Good luck man.

-Scars
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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