"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When to quit

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Reading through all the articles here I came to realise today that one of the most important things I take from this site is knowing when to quit. Knowing exactly what makes a woman not right to keep pursuing. It is also said here that persistance is key. So it can be a little confusing at times when to stop. Reading through here has given me much insight into this... Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SgtSplacker said:
Reading through all the articles here I came to realise today that one of the most important things I take from this site is knowing when to quit. Knowing exactly what makes a woman not right to keep pursuing. It is also said here that persistance is key. So it can be a little confusing at times when to stop. Reading through here has given me much insight into this... Thanks

I don't know what information you're referring to specifically, so I'll ask you a question:

Do you see the difference between knowing when to quit with an individual female, and being persistent about reaching your goals in life/dating/manhood?

I don't think anyone would tell you to persistently pursue a woman who has rejected you. Any mentions of persistence seem to be referring to not quitting on yourself. Quitting on some random chick is just fine. There are plenty more of those. There's only one you.
 

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My goals I will never give up on, I know what I want and I will die trying to reach them. What I was talking about was individual women. From what I can gather the decision to drop a woman must come from whether she is something you really want and based on her level of interest in you. Before I kinda had an accept all women mentality that just kinda drove me nuts. Kinda like a scavenger mentality thing going. I dunno if thats the right way to explain it. I've just been taught to reject what I don't want more readily.
 

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Good for you, this should apply to every minuteste part of your life. This might be a good place to suggest reading "The virtues of selfishness" by Ayn Rand. If there is a true manual, thats it right there. You can find a pdf. Pretty easily online.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She can be a little dry of a read, but well worth it. Her whole philosophy is based on reason, ego, principals and values. Yours. She is the anti thesis of all weak feminist thought, and encourages the heroic in man. To follow reason and be a benevolent egotist, with the highest value your productive principals is the natural state of a man, and the only way to honor your existance.
 
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