"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When to kiss

(JJ)

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ok i've been "with" (as exclusive as you can be while in highschool) a girl for about a month but I haven't been able to kiss her more than a closed-mouthed grandma kiss yet because of lack of time in places that are ok to kiss at together. My school of thought is that once I do the first one,(makeout session) I'll be able to spot the right scenarios easier. So i'm asking for advice about where all you dj's out there pulled off the first "big deal" kiss.
P.S. Im young in case you can't tell....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Basically anywhere thats private. Take her to a basement/livingroom/car or whatever where you know you two wont be disturbed. Make some light conversation then at the first pause look into her eye's and then move in slowly. Take the lead and don't be afraid, it's not as big a deal as you might be thinking.
 

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Go to a club, dance with her, drink a little just have an overall good time and then sit and talk a little, just don't really think about when is the "right time" i think you'll just know, i believe a girls face can tell when she is ready to be kissed, whatever you do don't try to think about it just FEEL the moment. :)
 

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Basically if I were you I'd walk up to her the next time I saw her and kiss her immediately because first of all she wants you to but you're the man so don't wait around on her quit showing her you're just a boy and can't step up and second of all there is no right moment get that preconcieved notion outta your head that sparks will fly and angels will sing, truth is we as people make perfect situations, they aren't handed to us. Step up and grab your ball sack and everything will be right with the world.
 

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I've only grandma kissed a girl once or twice, and that was in between classes. Any other time it turned into a makeout session...

One time was at a dance, another after a play as I was walking her to her car. You'll know when you should do it. Better to be alone as well.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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