"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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when to go with the flow

Zerotwoonenine

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hey guys, i'll save your time by going straight to the point.
Before you date a girl, hell, analyse the hell out of her as we good djs do(cause we no so much), constantly pull dj moves on her, take complete control, exert your power over her and stuff.
But have u guys ever seen the movie hitch??
i think u cant keep djing the girl after a few month into your date, you have to start letting her to get to know you alittle, cause if you keep remaining a mystery, she wont feel attached to you and will break up cause she thinks she dont even know you.
Last month i said to my girl:"do you think i am complicated?", she said:"yea", so i said:"do you think you will ever get to know me?", she said:"no i dont think ever:", now i secretly grinned to my self cause i know that with first month of dating you should remain a mystery. Then i gradually opened up to her and let her into my world, now dont get me wrong i did it dj way. She sent me a text:" maybe u r not as complicated as i thought and maybe i am not as simple as u though."
Our relationship moved on alot from that point.
In the end of the day, if u want a intimate relationship with a girl, u have to open up to her, other wise she will leave. You cant let her do all the chasing as well, you have to put in some effort as well. Yes girls get attracted to mystery and Djing, but if u r a good dj u will know when to ease down alittle and let her to get to know the real u, the u who is a dj, but who is also a guy.:yes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rastaman

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You have a point here but it may mislead the newbie, I generally won't change the winning formula.
 

Zerotwoonenine

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still man if u r the dj, then u know that you should be yourself sometimes.
 

Rastaman

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I'm not saying you should be on "stage/acting" always. What i'm saying is the "average be yourself" fails 90% of the time when it comes to girls. I'm cultivating a "changed man" and that who i'll be...
I don't lie to girls, but i won't give them the tools to bring me down either.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Fortunate_Juan

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JBY? Be who you want to be.
 
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