"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When to contact again

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Hey guys,

Well I've recently been trying the online game to help with my inexperience in the dating world. I've met a couple of chicks (chubbers, but nice) but nothing amazing. But it has helped me a bit with my confidence in approaching in real life as well. I show up and just act like i'm not nervous at all and try and make the conversation light and funny, and I think i'm doing ok on that end.

Just had a meet up last night for some coffee. This girl is young, 21, i'm 26. Surprisingly, I find her attractive, but I didn't act like a beta or AFC. Just acted the same as I had with the other chicks I met, tried to tease a bit and smile alot. She admits she's shy and very quiet in real life and on her profile, so I had to sort of bring her out, but at the same time I was wondering if she felt any attraction towards me. As the meeting progressed, she did start twirling her hair and moving a bit closer, but i'm not reading into that at this point. I controlled the conversation, she didn't really seem to have many questions about me. Now I know chicks at this age can be flakey, but just the fact she took the risk to show up and meet me instead of flaking says alot to me. I honestly think she is just a shy chick.

Anway, question is, when should I contact again. I mentioned Dinner next week on the same night, and she said that sounded good. But in between then, when would you guys give her a call just to talk briefly and set that up? She's going to her hometown in NM in a couple weeks so I'd like to get in a couple dates and escalate before she leaves, but don't want to break the once a week rule i've set. And I also plan on continuing to meet others, I just don't normally set up a date this early in the week, normally towards wednesday or thursday, then I just follow up on the weekend.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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contact her again whenever you want, I would send a text asking her if she still up to hang out again during the weekend, and if she agrees, then I would call to make definite plans and how its going to go...

if she likes you she will agree to what you propose.. no need to overthink this.
 
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Yea, I was going to send a text saying it was nice to meet her, and telling her I would call later to set up dinner arrangements, but didn't know if today would be to soon, or wait until maybe friday to shoot her a text and call sunday...

you're right, prob thinking too much into it.

Thanks
 
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sending a text saying it was nice to meet her and you had fun sounds ok, you can do that today but later on. I wouldn't mention the next date just yet, would probably call her 2-3 days later and arrange a date.

That's my opinion, but there's no guarantees. Just don't sound too eager, she might interpret it as desperate.
 
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how did you say goodbye to her? a hug? a kiss? handshake?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tiguere said:
You didnt go for the kiss close. YOU FAIL!
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First time meeting, only other convo was through email and text...Like I said, she was shy, and you can tell a bit conservative, attends SMU so no, no kiss close. Did hug and kiss on cheek.

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how did you say goodbye to her? a hug? a kiss? handshake?
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I hugged and kissed on the cheek.
 
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Ha, update, just got a text from HER saying she had a nice time and wants to see me again...

Will play it cool I suppose. Set something up for next week.

Thanks guys
 
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