"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Egocontrol

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I took this girl to a party last night and we had a great time alot of flirting and some kissing. At the end of the night i gave her a kiss goodnight and left. My question is when do you call them. Do you call them a day later, two,?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DonJuanQuixote

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call 24hrs, 26 minutes and 12 seconds later. Statistically proven to work.

Seriously though, I would say it really doesn't matter as long as you dont come off as needy/clingy in your phone interactions. Keep it short and to the point.
 

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I generally call the next day unless I'm really busy and can't make the call. I noticed that the longer it takes for me to call, the more flaky the girl will be. Waiting periods are stuipid, but hey, each to his own.

If a girl is interested in you, she wont think less of you if you call her the next day, in fact, it will increase her interest and make her like you more. If she's not interested in you, waiting 2-3 days wont make her interested, it will just distance her even more.
 

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It doesn't really matter how long you wait, as long as you don't call 16 times in a row. It's not when you call, it's how often. It's fine to call a girl the day after you get her number, but you shouldn't call her two days in a row, unless you have to.

Also, like as DonJuanQuixote said, it's more important to not look needy when you call.

Personally, I call when I can. I'm a busy guy, both with school and with my social life, so I call girls when I happen to have time. I always make the first call within a week, but it's really between one and seven day. Usually 3-4 days though.
 

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Originally posted by Egocontrol
I took this girl to a party last night and we had a great time alot of flirting and some kissing. At the end of the night i gave her a kiss goodnight and left. My question is when do you call them. Do you call them a day later, two,?
Wow, what a unique question. It is amazing that it has never, ever been asked before in the entire history of this site.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yeto

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If you call the next day, you are being predictable, and look needy, and it works better if you make her think and wait at least one day, you should know this, it even in the movies!!!
 

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Re: Re: when to call

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Wow, what a unique question. It is amazing that it has never, ever been asked before in the entire history of this site.
LOL..:cool:
 

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If you call the next day, you are being predictable, and look needy, and it works better if you make her think and wait at least one day, you should know this, it even in the movies!!!
This is one of the biggest myths out there. Like you said, it's in all the movies, everyone's seen Swingers, this is nothing new.

All of my male friends wait 2-3 days before calling.

All my female friends/former roomates KNOW that guys wait 2-3 days just to look cool, not because they're actually busy. Girls are not stuipid, they know which guys are stock brokers who spend 24 hrs on the phone, and which guys sit at home playing hard to get.

There is NOTHING unique about calling 2-3 days, it's a social norm nowdays, almost every guy does it. Don't kid yourself, it's very predictable.

If the girl thinks you're hot and you wait 2-3 days, they'll probably let it slide, but if they were only moderately interested, the waiting period will turn them off, and they'll flake on you. My wingwoman does it all the time.

I'm telling you from field experiance, the best way to prevent girls from flaking out on you is:

1.) Ask her out first before asking for her number. If you jump right to the number close, that's all you will get, a number.
2.) Call the next day.
 

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I agree.
Actually it's more unpredictable to call the next day. Women know about the time frames--my brother called a girl once (I guess the next day) and she actually said she was "surprised he didn't use the 3 day rule"
They ended up dating for a year.
 
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