"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok guys, I know there is a lot of sh!t on how long one should wait before calling up for a date, but everyone seems to have their own opinion. I've always been told that it's ok to even call the next day, that's why I usually fuq up :eek:
I manage to get numbers, but I never end up sealing the deal :mad: Do you guys think, that I should be more patient and wait longer before making the first call, or should I not give up and call at least one more time? Lately I've been getting pissed off and I don't call again. Last time I even got the girl to sleep with me, but I managed to fuq up and not hear from her again :confused:
What do you guys think??
I think I need some advice for my phone conversations too :p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i've always waited a few days. the min i've waited was 2, and i've always had pretty high success rates.

for your conversation, just set up a date, and time to meet, and something to do. that way you keep it short, and you dont fvck up.

if you keep it short, she might think you are busy and you want taht. you always gotta keep her mystery/interest level up.
 

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I met this new girl yesterday, and we were supposed to see each other today, so I told her that I'd probably call her up. Today I called her at around 11am and aked if she was free for lunch @ 12. We're in university and that's the only time I could fit in; lol!
Anyways, she answered me very sharply by saying that ya, she has no classes, but she is BUSY with studying! It's freaking friday today; I don't understand it!! NO 1, atleast not me, studies on fridays!!
What do you think? I met her in a lab that we have once a week. Should I wait about a week and see her then or call her up before that? that is if I should call again!

btw, thx 4 the reply :)
 
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i studied tonight b/c i have a test monday (and school just started, how gay is that). i wont hit the books again till sunday nite tho.

n e wayz...

that was just an excuse to see if she could get a rise outta ya. if you think she shows an interest in ya, dont call her. just wait till class again next week, and then ask her again. if she comes up with another excuse, then i would slip her to the back of the bus.

give her one more chance after that, but then 4get it. there's plenty of girls around campus for you to tag, so hop to it.

like i said, if she's interested, then she will call u.
read the beginning of my post and that may help ya a little bit:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=58966
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thanks bud, I'll take that advice :)
One of my friends told me the same thing. I didn't give her my digits, but hopefully she has them on her cell from my call.
By the way, I'm soooooooo pissed I didn't get any numbers today!!!! I could've atleast scored 4 numbers today, but I passed because I really like this biatch!
 

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Dude, call her next tuesday or wednesday. You are a busy man, you got S goin on.

Call her no more than twice and after the second time, delete her number. When she calls back, youll have it in your phone again.
There is no second guessing this. Just do it. Believe me. You want a straight answer here it is...Somehow, this rule wont apply to you, and youll reply saying. but, ands, and ifs.....all lame...call once, call twice, delete, simple.
 

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Originally posted by p1aya

By the way, I'm soooooooo pissed I didn't get any numbers today!!!! I could've atleast scored 4 numbers today, but I passed because I really like this biatch!
carefull you dont get oneitis. i was beginnign to develop it to my "study buddy" girl that likes me. i went out w/ soem oterh g/f's to help alieviate the oneitis feeling. and i'm fine now
 

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thx again for the replies :)
I don't like playing games; I'm gonna try to break this b!tch down ;)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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use the rules

Just read the anti-dump machine and use the rules that anti-dump set up. then after using the rules and all. You can bend them. Just make sure you use them.
 

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It's not as risky as you think waiting that long, but I certainly think that if you do, it runs the risk that in her mind, you're playing games, and you may put her in game-playing mode as well, when it may have been cool between you two if you just called and didn't make a big deal out of it in the first place.

This one girl I got a number from I waited maybe 4 days or so before calling her, and we finally spoke, but after that, I had to call first and leave her a voicemail before she called me back, but she always called me, so I don't know.

I hate these games, I usually don't play them. The key is that if you don't play them, be consistent and stick to your guns and don't get all indecisive about it, or else it will blow up in your face.
 

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I'm gonna wait till next thursday and see her in lab, and by then either she's pissed off or broken ;) Either way, I don't give a sh!t; I don't like playing games.
I was so stupid for not hooking up with anyone yesterday! I'm gonna try to get some digits starting monday :)
 

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Originally posted by Fatality
4-5 days? Isn't it possible that a girl could forget about you by then? Especially if she's really hot and has guys calling her all the time.

Unless she has an IQ lower than 50 yes.

Put it this way. Most guys wait 3 days now to call.

3 day is the norm. The DJ is not the norm, the norm is AFC.

AD says that if you can be a real man, a real DJ, 5 days.

I personally think 4 to 5 is good.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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