When to call her your girlfriend

[bootmeup]

Hi Gentleman,

I have been dating a women for almost 9 weeks now. We have seen each other once a week, and I talk to her approx. 1 ot 2 times a week. I have not decided whether I want an LTR or committed relationship with her. I have never privately or publically called her my girldfriend, or said the "I love you" thing yet. I have practiced my DJ skills.

I currently am also dating several other women <I met everyone using on-line services, it's my preferred method>.

I am hosting a party on Saturday and the women I have been dating for a few months will be there, but obvously none of the others.

Here is the QUESTION:

How should I introduce the women I have been dating a few months at my party. I do like her alot, but I don't want to say something publically that leads her to think that she is my steady/only girl at this point, because I haven't really decided yet. But also I do not want to embarras her or make her feel uncomfortable at the party either.

What is the best way to handle this situation.

Thanks to all my buds in advanced.

 

[b's nuts]

instead of saying "this is my girlfriend jane" or t"his is my friend jane" wich could put you on the spot with her, just say "this is jane"

easy enough.

also, wait for her to bring it up that you want to be exclusive, gives you the upper hand.

 

[bootmeup]

Re: Thanks

Good idea bro... Thanks.

 

[Aztec]

Originally posted by b's nuts
instead of saying "this is my girlfriend jane" or t"his is my friend jane" wich could put you on the spot with her, just say "this is jane"

easy enough.

also, wait for her to bring it up that you want to be exclusive, gives you the upper hand.

I agree.


I had a convo with an old friend of mine about this. I asked him the same hypothetical question (your topic). He said that if a couple is consistently seeing each other for over 3 months, then it's safe to say that they are an item. Of course that's debatable but a good rule of thumb.

 

[Wiesman44]

I'm surprised she hasn't talked to you about the whole relationship thing yet. Normally girls are the first to jump on that wagon, and the guy usually agrees to it b/c thats what he wants.

 

[Aztec]

Originally posted by Wiesman44
I'm surprised she hasn't talked to you about the whole relationship thing yet. Normally girls are the first to jump on that wagon, and the guy usually agrees to it b/c thats what he wants.

Don't be surprised. Even if sex is involved. That was my belief too until my last relationship. I thought that sex will solidify my need for the LTR but boy I was wrong.

 

[MRomeo99]

I ****ed up this exact thing last night, called a girl I've been seeing for a few months my friend when I was introducing her. I'm still getting **** for that.

I agree with what the other poster said.

Either:

a. This is Jane
or
b. This my date Jane

C. this is my friend Jane- Not so very good introduction.