"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When to call back?

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chivalry_x

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Here is the situation:

  • HB7.5 girl has been in my class all year
  • Finally talked to Friday night, after the final exam (talk about last minute)
  • She knows I think she's cute (I hinted to watching her in class a few times), but I did not come off as desperate in any way
  • Got her number, said "I'll call you" as I got off the bus
  • She has her last exam on Tuesday (not that it should matter)
  • She does not live in town (she will likely move soon after exams)
She laughed at half of the things I said. I told her "I got plans", but refused to tell her what they were, even though she kept asking (job, etc.). I also did a very minor compliance test, which she passed. That and other things tell me she is definitely interested.

When do I call back? I am thinking tomorrow afternoon (Sunday)? I don't want to come off as desperate, but I want to see her again to see where things go.

As for me, I just finished 4th year undergrad, and she is in 1st year. She knows this, and it (among other things) has likely given me higher value.

I should also add that I have absolutely no relevant experience with girls. 'Kino' is my weakpoint. I can build it up well to where I should start to do 'kino', but I always begin to stumble there.

Main issue here is when to call back. I think I can take it from there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mavrick

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Tuesday night.

Because you're busy and you have a lot going on. Make her feel that she's coming into your exciting world and not the other way around. Do not apologize for calling on Tuesday because you call when you want to call.
 
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Everyone is gonna have a different opinion of when to call. Whats today Saturday? I would say Mon. or Tues. (like mentioned above^^)and set up a date. I like setting up dates on the weekends but that's just me. Cause, I work Mon. - Fri.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hmmm. Well I'm moving on the Wednesday, and I'm busy as hell up until then. If I call Thursday evening and set something up for Friday, is that too 'late'?
 
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Cr1msonKing said:
Most of the time, when you set up dates with girls, and you set up on a "exciting/party" day it makes you come off like you have nothing to do on a Friday/Saturday night.
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Well surely there is a 'limit' as to how long I can take to call before she loses interest?

And as for Fridays/Saturdays, I usually never am doing anything, which leads me to the question: what the heck should I suggest we do? I know I should 'take command', but is a "let's meet up at X location and go from there" too vague?
 
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Call her whenever the hell you feel like calling her. Doesn't matter which night. Calling her a certain time will not make her like you more or less.

If you want to set up a weekday date, do it. If you want to set up a weekend date, do it. All this BS about you appearing like a loser because you want to spend a weekend night with her is just that...Pure watered down BS.
 
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