"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When to call after making out?

ChesterB

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I've been making out with that girl last night (Saturday), our second date.
When we parted she said "Give me a call."
Stupid me replied "Oh yeah. When do you have time?"
She: "Wednesday night."
Me: "I don't think that I have time then."

Now I'm wondering when I should call her. Today (the next day) (seems a bit clingy, doesn't it?)? Monday?

I did a search on the forum, but I just found that, when you had sex you should call the next day, no physical action => wait a few days.
But how long when making out?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Caveman

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Dude! If she tells you she has time for you to call on wednesday, don't call her BEFORE wednesday!

Don't take all of these rules so damn literally.
 

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Maybe I didn't express myself clearly: On Wednesday she has time for a date.
 

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Okay.. that part didn't come across to me. Even so, don't feel obligated to call the next day just cuz you made out. I think the point is to not think about it too much. Call whenever you feel like it. I don't believe these rules should be taken literally in every situation.

If you closed without kiss: wait 5 days
If you closed with kiss: wait 3 days
If you laid her: call the next day..

I don't believe they should be applied like this. Just don't call the very next day cuz you might come off being too eager. That's why this rule was invented. Feel free to disregard these rules when you believe they don't apply. Just as long as you won't come off as an afc that has nothing better to do than chase the very first female he comes across that actually seems to like him.
 
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