When to be aloof?

[h_roberts]

Question.

I posted another thread about hooking a date and closing the deal the other day. This girl is someone that I at least want to keep seeing for a while. I already have her talking about getting to know each other and seeing where it goes.

Obviously, there is a probation period (works both ways) where a man and woman are looking for reasons not to pursue something. This is where the rubber meets the road I think. I spent the weekend with her and payed her a lot of attention and we joked, laughed, and cut up.

Now, I'm being myself with her but I also realize that I don't want to get boring. One of the principles discussed here is to not be Mr Nice Guy. I don'y want to appear too interested, but I feel like at this point I should be displaying my interest. A few things I will be doing to not be "too attentive" is avoiding texting or calling too much. I might even have to cancel on seeing her a few times. But I don't want to overdo it.

When is the right time for this?

 

[phillyb]

always

 

[SharpGame]

always

I agree. You can display some interest, but you should always keep an element of mystery in the relationship. A magician who discloses too much about a trick ceases to be magical.

P.S. I just found this after a google search, kind of interesting: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Aloof

 

[OneEyedJack]

Don't cancel as that turns you into a jerk.

All you have to do is not be available all the time, but when you are available you show up as promised.