When this comes out of a girls mouth...

[sosilky]

Personally, if I'm just dating a woman and she visits her ex, it's no biggie.

what if she was hiding visiting him during this period and you found out months down the road that she was? (I've seen this happen)And if you were in a LTR with her and she is friends with the same friends as him how are you going to keep them apart?

It's all in the presentation.

If he whines about it and does nothing, he probably is insecure.

A girl i'm currently dating had a 'bad' breakup with a guy a few months ago that she tried to whine to me a little about. I told her not to go around him or talk to him because I don't deal with that drama, and it's disrespectful to our relationship and would demonstrate to me she's not ready for a a new adult relationship so i would leave. She knows I'd walk if she kept that door open with him. I know damn well she's not viewing it as "insecurity" because of the way i framed it. She actually told me the other day that she had to contact him to get some paper or another from him for work. She fears me finding out so she was open about it.

There is no such thing as "the right guy for me." Female jibberish concerning fate.

how did you frame it? and she always sees the ex because he is part of the same crew. how does when ask the girl to stop hanging out with her friends?

 

[Desdinova]

what if she was hiding visiting him during this period and you found out months down the road that she was?

Then I kick her to the curb. I don't need to be involved with a lying b1tch.

And if you were in a LTR with her and she is friends with the same friends as him how are you going to keep them apart?

That's understandable since she's not making an effort to see him. If she calls him or makes plans with him, then she's being disrespectful.