"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When the ex-wife and ex-gf unite!

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So my oneitis ex-gf has been keeping in touch with my daughter, which I didn't mind since they always got along really well. Although my daughter has been kind of sneaky about it, deleting txts from my ex-gf so I don't see them (I check her phone randomly- that was the deal when I got her the phone). Anyway, I just found out that my ex-gf and my ex-wife are now talking, I gues so my daughter and my ex-gf can hang out.

It shouldn't bother me, and it's not really bothering me but it's bothering me that I'm not bothered by it...and perhaps I should be? LOL

I guess I wonder what they talk about?
ex-wife: he's an @sshole
ex-gf: I know!

hahaha

I am planning to talk to my daughter about hiding texts though, nothing specific but I'll tell her that trust is the most important thing between family, relationships etc and if you have a reason to hide something then the situation is probably not a good one to be in or bring it up and see so you don't have to hide things which is basically lying. I think she'll get the hint.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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this is some weird situation lol. idkman ignore, who cares about them, and stop checking your kids phone, my dad did the same and to today i still see him as acreep xD
 
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this is some weird situation lol. idkman ignore, who cares about them, and stop checking your kids phone, my dad did the same and to today i still see him as acreep xD
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Yeah, I'm ignoring it.
But no way I'm not going to keep an eye on her phone though. Far too young to let her be on social media through her phone without supervision, it's similar to handing a kid a loaded weapon...believe me, you'll understand once you have your own kids ;)
 
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Your exgf sounds like a loser. I'm sure shes a great person, but there has to be something wrong with her if she cant make her own friends and keeps in touch with the exes family. Probably has attachment issues and is incapable of making new friends...
 
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So my oneitis ex-gf has been keeping in touch with my daughter, which I didn't mind since they always got along really well. Although my daughter has been kind of sneaky about it, deleting txts from my ex-gf so I don't see them (I check her phone randomly- that was the deal when I got her the phone). Anyway, I just found out that my ex-gf and my ex-wife are now talking, I gues so my daughter and my ex-gf can hang out.

It shouldn't bother me, and it's not really bothering me but it's bothering me that I'm not bothered by it...and perhaps I should be? LOL

I guess I wonder what they talk about?
ex-wife: he's an @sshole
ex-gf: I know!

hahaha

I am planning to talk to my daughter about hiding texts though, nothing specific but I'll tell her that trust is the most important thing between family, relationships etc and if you have a reason to hide something then the situation is probably not a good one to be in or bring it up and see so you don't have to hide things which is basically lying. I think she'll get the hint.
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Oh wow that’s interesting lol.
Good call re talking to your daughter. If they are trash talking you around her that would be very low behaviour from both of them and bad parenting from your ex wife.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Haha yeah totally.

My ex-wife won't give me a sip of water if I was dying of thirst but at least I know that she won't trash talk me in front of my daughter.

The ex-gf she just wants to be the goody 2 shoes and wants the entire world to love her, deep down she's very insecure. She's especially been talking more and more with my daughter ever since I dumped her probably in the hopes that I'll see her as a good person after-all.

My daughter loves me, if I don't respond to her texts within 30 mins she starts calling me to make sure I'm ok lol but she's always trying to be the peace maker (in general with her friends etc too). I don't mind her keeping in touch with my ex-gf because my ex-gf literally treated her like her own kid. She was a great gf in just about every way, until she turned.
 
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Unless your daughter is like 17, and your ex wife and ex gf are like 22, so they start smashing your daughter

Or they manipulate her and turn her against you as a revenge scheme

You've got nothing to worry about so who cares lol
 
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