DonJuanByNature said:
Listen, she may be doing it cause 1)She likes you 2)She is comfertable (NOT LIKELYE) in fact 3) she IS NOT COMFTERBLE (more likely) this is in a good way, i.e. she is interested but doesnt quet know how to carry her self 4)she is insecure etc....
DOESNT FCKING matter man... What you have to do, is TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE SITUATION... as soon as you see that level of uncomfterbility or insecuirty, pull the MOVES.. i.e. reach over to her cheek and pretend like your wipping something off and say"ohh you had something there, but I got it off" I LOVE doing that... it SHOCKS them, and then brings them to a comfort zone, cause youre "helping" out and "touching" at same time... you can do anything, like adjusting her earing, going for the lips "i.e. something in the corner of her mouth"
CONCLUSION..
DO ANYTHING YOU CAN, TO MAKE HER MORE UNCOMFTERBLE i.e. taking control of the situation.. think about it, daddys little girl can relax in front of her dad cause DAD got the situation controlled... you in essence need to take that role
makes sense. Anyway, it was just some chick at work. Yeah, she's very very cute like a hot burnette 8.5. Even the other alpha males at work are INLOVE with this chick.
A summary of what really happened:
I was working in my department doing some stuff and I see her walking by. So I greeted by saying:
djnoob - "Hey looser"
HB 8.5 - "hey djnoob! man, this sucks.. i have to do this and this.. bla bla bla
I just want to be her friend really and user her for social proof. She was talking to me for like 2 minutes at work and she did a half stretch by raising her hands in mid air which exposed her arm pits..
So I negged her by giving her the "smelly facial expression" while waving my hand infront my face left to right with a smile on my face of course..
And she was like "oh shutup"
djnoob - "hey watcha been doing this summer?"
hb - "not much. But I am going to Santa Fe tomorrow!"
djnoob - "cool. Have you been to Fair?"
hb - "We were planning on going to.. but we ended up not going"
djnoob -"well, check this out. Next week, there will be a concert there. Smash mouth will be there, led zeppelin, etc etc."
hb - "oh wow, thats so cool"
djnoob -"if you are not doing anything next wednesday me and my friends are going to go see it, it would be cool if you can come along, if not, thats cool too"
hb - "ok"
djnoonb - "do you still have the same cell phone number" (i've asked her for it back in january before she disappeared for 5 months but I haven't called her since then... cuz like i said, Im not trying to hook up wid her or anything and due to the fact she has a BF)
hb - "yeah, i don think ive changed it"
djnob - "ok then ill call you and figure things out"
hb - "ok"
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So, i thinking of calling her maybe later but... Is there anything else I can say to get my message across even further that I just want to be friends with her? Maybe lie to her that my "stripper girl friend" is coming along
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Im thinking of maybe not calling her to ask her plans for wednesday. Instead, I am just going to meet her at work in person and say something like this:
djnoob - "hey, i didn't call you cause think i threw your number away or lost it or something... so, anyways, you gona tag along with us on wednesday or what?"