"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When someone tells you they are attracted to confidence, they are lying!

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skinnyguy said:
I agree. I'll grant you guys this - confidence and charisma can lead to more approaches which can lead to more dates.

Obviously confidence is not a bad thing. But it won't automatically turn you into a vagina magnet. You need other qualities to go with it.
Reps.

Guy girl finds hot that she wants to approach her and does = Confident.

Guy girl doesn't find attractive at all and confidently approaches her = harassment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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zekko said:
Some people say that confidence is analogous to having a positive attitude, and I do think you will usually do better with a positive attitude than a negative one.
Absolutely. I think every man, regardless of his LMS situation, should have a certain "base level" of confidence (and more if you have other things going for you). You need it in the work/business world. You need it to interact with females. If you are too uncomfortable, it makes her uncomfortable too.

So if we take an ugly guy for example...

If his confidence is TOO low and he's nervous/awkward, he will lose even MORE points.

If his confidence is TOO high, then he loses points for being a faker or a creep.

But if he has a decent, moderate base level of confidence, even women that aren't attracted to him will have some respect for him. And if a chick is attracted to his type, he will have enough confidence to not screw things up with her.

So, the long and short of it is, I think confidence is necessary but not sufficient for attraction.
 

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To bang hot women you need the following. A big ****, a handsome face, a great body, a confident smile, a good personality. If you have 3 out of 5 of these things your in business.
 

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In all seriousness, Anyone who says that a woman needs to be truly physically attracted to you in order to **** you or even fall in love with you obviously hasn't dated enough. Everyone here does online date in one way or another, a lot of us use our best pictures and dont look as good in real life as our pictures lol and still managed to bang the chick. That should be all the proof you need....
 
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captain55 said:
In all seriousness, Anyone who says that a woman needs to be truly physically attracted to you in order to **** you or even fall in love with you obviously hasn't dated enough. Everyone here does online date in one way or another, a lot of us use our best pictures and dont look as good in real life as our pictures lol and still managed to bang the chick. That should be all the proof you need....
What did it your mouth piece? Some times they knew they wanted to bang and as long as you weren't disgusting or talked your way out of the pu$$y you would be inside it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hollowpoints said:
Reps.

Guy girl finds hot that she wants to approach her and does = Confident.

Guy girl doesn't find attractive at all and confidently approaches her = harassment.
This. As long as she finds something about you attractive you got a shot.
 

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Success is the byproduct of confidence. Not the other way around.
 

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SeymourCake said:
Success is the byproduct of confidence. Not the other way around.
I don't know if I can agree with that. If you try something the first time, you might be a little leery of it. But if you succeed, then you know you can do it, and the next time it comes up you will be more confident at it. Then, if you succeed again and again at it, then you will be firmly confident.

I would also say confidence is the byproduct of preparation. For you to be confident at something you have never succeeded at before, you probably will have to put in a lot of preparation time, and know that you understand what you are doing.

PUAs like to push what they call "delusional self confidence", meaning they are more confident than they have a right to be. This can lead to a certain kind of charm ideally, but overconfidence can also get you killed. Overconfidence might also be called arrogance.
 

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Look at the comments on Youtube videos of male celebrities. What do the girls write? "Aww, he is so confident!" ??

No, I'll give you some examples:

Zayn Malik:

"Such a Gorgeous Lad.. Zayn Malik has the X FACTOR."

"Zayn's smile is so beautiful, I wish he did it more often :)"

"Zayn is so beautiful."

"People can say whatever they want but Zayn can rock any hairstyle he is just THAT beautiful."

"Zayn is so ****ing beautiful. Perfect."



Don Benjamin:


"WOW his eyes are just so mesmerizing."

"His eyes!!"

"I really love his eyes."



Trey Songz:

"Is it me or are Trey's eyes the most beautiful thing you've ever seen?"

"Those lips tho."

"He is just gorgeous!"

"He is so handsome."



Good looking women want good looking men... it's a law of nature.
 
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