"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When someone tells you they are attracted to confidence, they are lying!

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skinnyguy said:
I agree. I'll grant you guys this - confidence and charisma can lead to more approaches which can lead to more dates.

Obviously confidence is not a bad thing. But it won't automatically turn you into a vagina magnet. You need other qualities to go with it.
Reps.

Guy girl finds hot that she wants to approach her and does = Confident.

Guy girl doesn't find attractive at all and confidently approaches her = harassment.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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zekko said:
Some people say that confidence is analogous to having a positive attitude, and I do think you will usually do better with a positive attitude than a negative one.
Absolutely. I think every man, regardless of his LMS situation, should have a certain "base level" of confidence (and more if you have other things going for you). You need it in the work/business world. You need it to interact with females. If you are too uncomfortable, it makes her uncomfortable too.

So if we take an ugly guy for example...

If his confidence is TOO low and he's nervous/awkward, he will lose even MORE points.

If his confidence is TOO high, then he loses points for being a faker or a creep.

But if he has a decent, moderate base level of confidence, even women that aren't attracted to him will have some respect for him. And if a chick is attracted to his type, he will have enough confidence to not screw things up with her.

So, the long and short of it is, I think confidence is necessary but not sufficient for attraction.
 

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To bang hot women you need the following. A big ****, a handsome face, a great body, a confident smile, a good personality. If you have 3 out of 5 of these things your in business.
 

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In all seriousness, Anyone who says that a woman needs to be truly physically attracted to you in order to **** you or even fall in love with you obviously hasn't dated enough. Everyone here does online date in one way or another, a lot of us use our best pictures and dont look as good in real life as our pictures lol and still managed to bang the chick. That should be all the proof you need....
 
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captain55 said:
In all seriousness, Anyone who says that a woman needs to be truly physically attracted to you in order to **** you or even fall in love with you obviously hasn't dated enough. Everyone here does online date in one way or another, a lot of us use our best pictures and dont look as good in real life as our pictures lol and still managed to bang the chick. That should be all the proof you need....
What did it your mouth piece? Some times they knew they wanted to bang and as long as you weren't disgusting or talked your way out of the pu$$y you would be inside it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hollowpoints said:
Reps.

Guy girl finds hot that she wants to approach her and does = Confident.

Guy girl doesn't find attractive at all and confidently approaches her = harassment.
This. As long as she finds something about you attractive you got a shot.
 

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Success is the byproduct of confidence. Not the other way around.
 

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SeymourCake said:
Success is the byproduct of confidence. Not the other way around.
I don't know if I can agree with that. If you try something the first time, you might be a little leery of it. But if you succeed, then you know you can do it, and the next time it comes up you will be more confident at it. Then, if you succeed again and again at it, then you will be firmly confident.

I would also say confidence is the byproduct of preparation. For you to be confident at something you have never succeeded at before, you probably will have to put in a lot of preparation time, and know that you understand what you are doing.

PUAs like to push what they call "delusional self confidence", meaning they are more confident than they have a right to be. This can lead to a certain kind of charm ideally, but overconfidence can also get you killed. Overconfidence might also be called arrogance.
 

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Look at the comments on Youtube videos of male celebrities. What do the girls write? "Aww, he is so confident!" ??

No, I'll give you some examples:

Zayn Malik:

"Such a Gorgeous Lad.. Zayn Malik has the X FACTOR."

"Zayn's smile is so beautiful, I wish he did it more often :)"

"Zayn is so beautiful."

"People can say whatever they want but Zayn can rock any hairstyle he is just THAT beautiful."

"Zayn is so ****ing beautiful. Perfect."



Don Benjamin:


"WOW his eyes are just so mesmerizing."

"His eyes!!"

"I really love his eyes."



Trey Songz:

"Is it me or are Trey's eyes the most beautiful thing you've ever seen?"

"Those lips tho."

"He is just gorgeous!"

"He is so handsome."



Good looking women want good looking men... it's a law of nature.
 
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