"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When should you flake on a women?

thunder_god

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If a girl is playing games with you or you suspect that she is, would you purposely flake on a date if she asks you out? Would this backfire on you if she really wanted to be going out with you?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tiguere

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Spin plates. Playing games = low interest maybe none in most cases.
 

The LadyKiller

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I hate flaking on women. Not because they're especially high value, but I try to stick to commitments, so it's more a "me" thing. Anyway, I actually just "flaked" on a HB this week.

I asker her out, she mentions how there's competition. I debated going on the date anyway, but in the end it felt uncomfortable and I wound up having other commitments anyway.

When it comes to flaking, if you feel disrespected or used - basically, when she has low IL - explaining that you have other things to do might be best.
 

smurfs

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I agree, simply spin plates - flaking is just plain rude
 

thunder_god

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What if she flaked on your before by trying to change a date to a group social event?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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VladPatton

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thunder_god said:
What if she flaked on your before by trying to change a date to a group social event?

If she did either one of these, or worse, both, make no mistake, have no doubt, this girl thinks you're dogshıt. Drop her immediately and look for something better, you will get nowhere if you continue.

Good luck.
 
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