"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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When should I begin cutting?

mellow_yellow

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I'm 5' 10". I began training 7 months ago, following the Stronglifts 3x5 beginner program and now the Madcow 5x5 intermediate program. My weight has been stable, staying between 188 and 193 lb. So that must mean I'm eating at or slightly above maintenance, which is good since I've continued to bulk slowly without any issues. I should be somewhere between 20-25% body fat. I'm definitely stronger, but eventually want to lose body fat and get ripped. I wonder how much I should be able to lift before I begin dieting. What lift targets should I hit or when should I begin cutting?

This is the max I can lift as of today. I'm continuing to progress by adding 5 lbs per week for the main lifts.
  • squat — 255 lb x 1 set x 5 reps
  • deadlift — 290 lb x 1 x 5
  • overhead press — 118 lb x 3 x 2/3/2. This means 2 reps, 3 reps, and 2 reps for total of 3 sets.
  • pendlay row — 150 lb x 1 x 5
  • bench press — 180 lb x 3 x 3
  • chin-ups — BW x 4 x 5/3/3/(10). This means 5 reps, 3 reps, 3 reps, and 10 negatives for total of 4 sets.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cut in the summer when you become an advanced lifter (plateauing regularly... having over training issues, etc.). Outdoor workouts are more fun. Take up a cardio you like and really go at it. It's a nice change from the gym and you'll enjoy the weather more.
 

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@EyeBRollin thanks for elaborating. I know you said before to keep going until I plateau. I'll be sure to do that since my weight has been stable for months since I began training.

Once I go from weekly to monthly gains and transition to an advanced program like Wendler 5/3/1, I'll reassess and consider cutting. You're right that I'll most likely be an advanced lifter around next summer time. I'll probably hit advanced strengths standards between 1-year training anniversary next April and the start of summer in June. In the meantime, I'll work on following your diet principles the best I can. :up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I don't get bulking? Are you w body builder? As in, paid to do that? Its very hard on the body. I know many guys crushing donuts and declaring it bulking season. They are fat. Hopefully, yiu aren't going to be the case.

Begin cleaning up the diet. If i don't buy it, i won't eat it.

Try new things. See how you respond. I enjoy 5x5 or hypertrophy 3 x 8-12 with warm up sets.

Its all cals in or cals out. Dunno what diet i wilk be doing in 2019. Thinking keto or intermittent fasting.
 

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20-25% is way too high man. **** calorie partitioning when you start to become that fat, you think you're getting "bigger" but just fatter. Bulk to 16% max, so you don't have to spend 6 months dieting.
 

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20-25% is way too high man. **** calorie partitioning when you start to become that fat, you think you're getting "bigger" but just fatter. Bulk to 16% max, so you don't have to spend 6 months dieting.
+1 i concur.

I think there's too many skinnycunts preaching aesthetics but being fat as ****kkk isn't bulking. Its being a slob.

16%, will notice it running. A clean bulk is GOAT status. Virtually no risk fir injury if you know how to lift. Power and strength is on point. I always tell young kids trying to bulk, do it right. Big macs, donuts, and crispy creams is slob status.

I try not to go beyond 15%. At thirty, i am no competitive body builder. I don't care for roids or PEDs. There's so much junk science these days. 99% of bb dot com is on tren.


Seek referenced sources. Check guys like Paul Chek.
 
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