Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
bigneil said:Have you ever had a woman say you are her "booty call"? Where did the relationship go?
Is a booty call the equivalent of a f<ck buddy? Is it a compliment, an insult or neither? Good or bad?
Thanks in advance.
SirFratserlot said:It means you are getting used with sexual benefits
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dont listen to those dumbasses, they started a circle jerk out of nowhere instead of reasoning about what you said.bigneil said:So a girl is using a man for sex?
I think being a booty call is bad if you're a woman and good if you're a man.
You can blame Sex & the City for this. Actually you can blame the entire media industry for society's moral decline.bigneil said:Thanks Who Dares Win.
In the past week one girl said I could be her FB and the other said I was her BC. In my whole life no girl ever used either of those terms explicitly.
I think it's their way of saying they are attracted but unavailable for a commitment, which is ideal for me. Except I just wonder about womens declining morals. It seems they all have multiple men for different functions.
bigneil said:So a girl is using a man for sex?
I think being a booty call is bad if you're a woman and good if you're a man.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That's true, but keep in mind at the end of the day men want sex, and women want relationships/marriage. The more guys she has sex with, the harder it's gonna be for her to find a good husband. Every non-relationship f-buddy is a direct hit to her market value (whether she realizes it or not). Chalk it up to the war of the rosesZion said:How is it bad if you're a woman ? Sex is equally as enjoyable for both genders.
While there is no way to prove this, given that men have 2000% more Testosterone than women, and that the going rate is for men to pay $500 for sex, I find it hard to believe that women find it more pleasurable.Zion said:Physically speaking, sex is far more pleasuring for a woman.
Funny, I was thinking about that when reading this thread.casaanova said:100% good thing. It's just her rationalizing what's going on between you two so she doesn't feel like she's the one being used. I think Roissy posted about it at his blog a while back.
I had a woman recently say she was my booty call and she was cool with it. I agree with cassanova, she needed to put herself in a category. This girl just got out of non-sexual serious relationship, and she's now venturing out. My guess was, that was the way of her telling me she needs sex too and she doesn't want anything serious.bigneil said:Have you ever had a woman say you are her "booty call"? Where did the relationship go?
Is a booty call the equivalent of a f<ck buddy? Is it a compliment, an insult or neither? Good or bad?
Thanks in advance.