I dont know if I am trying to read into it, and it really doesnt really mean much, or maybe it does mean something. This girl that I have been "casually dating" over the past few months tells me stuff about what she has been up to, or tells me what her upcoming plans are, she will tell me the truth, but she will usually completely leave out mention of another guy that is involved in it. I have super-secret sources and ways of knowing that the other guys are involved, and she doesnt know that I know. Example: I know for a fact that the girl went to a certain restaurant last night with Guy A, and I know that she plans on going bowling with Guy B next week. When she talks to me, she will tell me that she went to that restaurant last night. She will also tell me that she plans on going bowling next week. But unless I specifically ask her, she will not mention the other guys involvement. Does this mean anything? She knows that I know that she is seeing other guys, and I'm seeing other girls also. Is she just trying to not sound like a *****? Does it even mean anything?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When she doesnt tell you the whole truth about her men
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
squirrels
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And your point is? 
You're casually dating, you're seeing other girls, and she's seeing other guys. What are you so afraid of? And why is it any of your business what she does with other guys? Do you tell her all about the other girls you're dating?
Stop being so insecure. And enough with the super-secret sources. You're not a stalker.
You're casually dating, you're seeing other girls, and she's seeing other guys. What are you so afraid of? And why is it any of your business what she does with other guys? Do you tell her all about the other girls you're dating?
Stop being so insecure. And enough with the super-secret sources. You're not a stalker.
The Dominated1
Don Juan
It Just means that you already know she is seeing other guys.
You are casually dating therefore she can see other guys in her own time.
This information is private and you should have no interest in it unless you are in a committed relationship.
YOU MUST DATE OTHER GIRLS
You are casually dating therefore she can see other guys in her own time.
This information is private and you should have no interest in it unless you are in a committed relationship.
YOU MUST DATE OTHER GIRLS
SeldomSeen
Senior Don Juan
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man you just have to learn to play it cool....I'll give you a perfect example. The girl I just started casually dated has men on her cell phone that call her all the time, and not to play chess either. She spent the night at my apartment last night and her cell phone went off. I said "that's one of your other men, you better tell them to take a number..." with a laugh. She started laughing because she figured out that I knew she was seeing other men and I had to let her know that it doesnt bother me and she was like "thats what turns me on about you, that you are so cool and don't get unwrapped over stuff...none of the other guys like it at all"
Be Cool man...it will save you from many an embarrassing situation. That doesnt mean let her walk all over you and talk on the phone for 30 minutes to some guy while you wait but just learn to be cool
man you just have to learn to play it cool....I'll give you a perfect example. The girl I just started casually dated has men on her cell phone that call her all the time, and not to play chess either. She spent the night at my apartment last night and her cell phone went off. I said "that's one of your other men, you better tell them to take a number..." with a laugh. She started laughing because she figured out that I knew she was seeing other men and I had to let her know that it doesnt bother me and she was like "thats what turns me on about you, that you are so cool and don't get unwrapped over stuff...none of the other guys like it at all"
Be Cool man...it will save you from many an embarrassing situation. That doesnt mean let her walk all over you and talk on the phone for 30 minutes to some guy while you wait but just learn to be cool
PuertoRican_Lover
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r u sexing her? Would it be different if you were? Are you looking for a ltr or a fling? At least she is being honest with you1 If she was really attracted to you she'll be seeing you only... this tells you her interest level!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.