"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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When she doesn't respond back.

Van_The_Man

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Okay so I have this friend of mine who is a girl that I wanted to hang out with last weekend.
Around tuesday I emailed her (via facebook) and told her how we should hang out some time this weekend at this new place I discovered. She responded back saying it would be cool and that she might be able to come except that she was planning on hanging out with this other girlfriend of her's on the weekend as well.
Well of course I joked back saying, "What, do you plan on hanging out with her the entire weekend? ;P" (that was around wed.). Well she never responded back though when I look at her profile page she's clearly been online and has posted some stuff on her wall after that message I sent her.

Now I was a bit upset but didn't let if faze me at all cause I just set up something with someone else. But my question is what should I do here? I'm stuck between not saying anything about it to saying something. Like "Hey for future reference it'd be much appreciated if you could get back to me sooner when I try and make plans."
What do you guys think? More importantly what would you guys do?
She's someone I'd like to just have around as a friend, and she's a nice person, though this was the first time she's ever done anything like that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cmr662

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Van_The_Man said:
But my question is what should I do here? I'm stuck between not saying anything about it to saying something. Like "Hey for future reference it'd be much appreciated if you could get back to me sooner when I try and make plans."
Whatever you do, DON'T SAY THIS. I can guarantee you she will think you are a psycho (at least, considering all the details you've given us) and won't talk to you anymore. I'd give it at least a week, message her again something playful and see how she reacts. In my honest opinion she isn't interested or else she would have responded.
 

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cmr662 said:
Whatever you do, DON'T SAY THIS. I can guarantee you she will think you are a psycho (at least, considering all the details you've given us) and won't talk to you anymore. I'd give it at least a week, message her again something playful and see how she reacts. In my honest opinion she isn't interested or else she would have responded.
lol alright, thanks for your advice. I dodged a bullet there.
 

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Van_The_Man said:
She's someone I'd like to just have around as a friend, and she's a nice person, though this was the first time she's ever done anything like that.
You dont want her as a friend. dont you have plenty of males friends? YOU WANT TO BANG HER!!!
 

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J Roc said:
You dont want her as a friend. dont you have plenty of males friends? YOU WANT TO BANG HER!!!
exactly, stop trying to get her to "hang out"...its like your trying to sneak her onto a date with out her realising...

she has prob had the meet up with her Girlfreind arranged for a while, who is more important... as you are new to her life (and your not potential dates - see your last line)

you need to offer her something exciting she dont alreay have as a new male freind - it may be easier to be on group outlings with her at the start to build up your rapport...one-to-one "freind dates" are a little odd in some ways
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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