You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
These are good. I did this with a chubby chick once when she called me bro...."you know what I call a women who calls me bro??? I don't"Bro??? Let me guess. The Doc put you on steroids."
"Bro? ... Aw, that's sweet. My little sister pretended she was a man once."
"Bro, huh. " Not bad. You're getting closer to passing as a man."
"Bro?!" (shake your head). You need to check your estrogen levels, I bet it's negative 20.
The last one is probably above the comprehension of the type of gal that says "bro" but it's my favorite response.
"Bro?!" If Freud was alive today, he'd swear that you have penis envy."
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Can you give some examples?I’ve been known to devalidate 9s just for looking at me the wrong way. After awhile it becomes completely embedded into your vibe and presence. Nowadays, females in my circles treat my ego with kids gloves. They are deathly afraid of my dismissal.
You need to learn to dismiss h0es at the first sign of disrespect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
add "guy"When a girl says bro,dude or man I instantly lose attraction