I have this evening class in BU, and I take the bus there. Anyway, today there was this cute chick sitting across from me on the bus. I glanced at her a few times and after that she glanced at me a few times, but I just couldn't figure out how to approach her. How do I strike up a conversation without making it sound too weird. I know some of you might be like "Just say 'Hi'", but what then? I have to say something to get a conversation started, and hi just gets her attention. My friend gave me a suggestion about situations like this saying "Just start talking about the weather" but that seems kinda retarded to me. I mean how would you feel if someone who was sitting across from you moved to the seat next to you just to ask you "What do you think about this ridiculously cold winter?"
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
when on a bus?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Hey, how's it going? Where you headed?"
Listen to the answer...it may give you a multitude of things to talk about.
Listen to the answer...it may give you a multitude of things to talk about.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Tel her that you'll be getting a car soon and that her bus riding days are over, if she play her cards right - say in a playful tone.
You can either comment or better ask about something you noticed about her.
Example: She's wearing a t-shirt with some text on it, but you can't read it for some reason. Then you say "Hey, what's written on your T-Shirt?"
Ideally you say something C&F.
If there's nothing remarkable about her, say something like "The bus is crowded/ unusually empty today, isn't it?"
Example: She's wearing a t-shirt with some text on it, but you can't read it for some reason. Then you say "Hey, what's written on your T-Shirt?"
Ideally you say something C&F.
If there's nothing remarkable about her, say something like "The bus is crowded/ unusually empty today, isn't it?"
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
K Street
Don Juan
I did just that on Friday (it was 12 degrees outside). I got a girl's number, though I should probably get around to calling her sometime soon.
THA REALNESS
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1.You don't have to make eye contact ,infact i advise against it unless your alone with a b1tch (why? cuz it gives her time and a reason to throw up that b1tch-sheild D).
2.Just pop up and say "hi" or" wassup" make a general statement ,your allowed to compliment ..don't open up with a question ...
3. Access but don't fall back cuz of her mood ...you can change mood you know ...
"OH THA REALNESS ! There you go again with bla bla big words"
LISTEN SHHHH!! LISTEN !! You wann get laid right ..**** her mood and **** her feelings.
4.Be yourself ,if you are ****y and funny be so if you are a romancer be so if you are perv be a perv.
More often then not guys wanna grab a chic by the hair and poke her in the sh1tter upon the second they meet her ...go with this trust me.
"REALNESS I HATE YOU !! WHAT IF I DON'T HAVE CONVERSATIONAL SKILLZ"
Then why the **** are you asking for advice .Practice .
2.Just pop up and say "hi" or" wassup" make a general statement ,your allowed to compliment ..don't open up with a question ...
3. Access but don't fall back cuz of her mood ...you can change mood you know ...
"OH THA REALNESS ! There you go again with bla bla big words"
LISTEN SHHHH!! LISTEN !! You wann get laid right ..**** her mood and **** her feelings.
4.Be yourself ,if you are ****y and funny be so if you are a romancer be so if you are perv be a perv.
More often then not guys wanna grab a chic by the hair and poke her in the sh1tter upon the second they meet her ...go with this trust me.
"REALNESS I HATE YOU !! WHAT IF I DON'T HAVE CONVERSATIONAL SKILLZ"
Then why the **** are you asking for advice .Practice .