When it comes to marriage and career women:

[itouchyou]

Question for some of you older folks, or folks who have been married.

If you date a woman who's a doctor or lawyer; do you find that you miss out on some of the more feminine aspects of a relationship?

Few examples:
Cooking for you
Prioritizing life outside of work
Spending time with you
In general, being nurturing/soft/supportive

I'm starting to wonder if as an older man in his 30s, I should be targeting women with less intense careers.

 

[Ricky]

Married to a nurse.
Problems
Started before she finished a nursing degree but the stress of the profession hardens them

 

[itouchyou]

Married to a nurse.
Problems
Started before she finished a nursing degree but the stress of the profession hardens them

I'm a pretty masculine guy who's gone through some pretty rough psychological pain through my life. What would really make me happy is someone soft and nurturing. And I'm wondering if a career woman would be able to give me that.

 

[BPH]

It should be pretty obvious by now that women who choose to compete in male-dominated fields are sacrificing their femininity to do so.

The requirements to succeed in those types of careers involve constant self-improvement, long hours, working weekends, and a good bit of selfishness, since the primary motivator would be money.

A lot of those women live to regret that decision when they're in their mid-30s, unmarried, no kids, with their looks fading. Men will still choose them, but they aren't the men those women want.

My most recent ex was very wealthy, and while she could definitely be very sweet and caring, it was more common for her to throw money at problems and hold her income over people's heads as a way to show that she was superior.

If you are not "doing better" than these types of women, it will be impossible for her to respect you, and those relationships will fail.

 

[TheMale]

It all comes down to what you want in a woman.

Your non negotiable...
Your nice to.have...
And your "i dont care"...

Only you define what you want in a relationship and then choose a woman based on that.

For example, i want a woman whos feminine, focuses on the children and the home, and makes the house an environment i want to be in where i dont need to constantly compete with her...

So i naturally look for woman who are open to that. And before i seriously date a girl, i ask her if shes open to that kind of relationship. This way i save time and energy on a pretty frustrating relationship.