When is it over?

[oldspice891]

Hey guys,


Been dating this girl over a year. First love and first sexual partner. I have extreme performance anxiety and she's been patient with me even though our sex life is terrible to be honest (because of me)

I lived with her the past 5 months because I wasn't man enough to day no, and although it made me more attached emotionally, mentally it hurt our relationship for me. She moved back in with her parents recently. We fight a lot. I've gained 20 lbs since we started. She's pretty attractive with a perfect body whereas I'm a fat slob.

The truth is, I feel like I just don't care anymore. She loves me way more than I do her. I just feel so bad and guilty, because I've been used to being a virgin who went after women and was turned down, but never a great attractive girl who loves me. I don't want to hurt her, but at the same time, many times I feel like I just don't want to be in this relationship anymore.

Her bday is coming up and she wants some Prince Charming type plans, but I just don't care. It's weird because I'm not a very sexual guy.

Not sure how to feel. Is this whole year going to come to an end. Just like that its over? I hate that I feel like this but I just don't want to continue on with it sometimes. I'm grateful she took a chance with me cuz who knows how much longer I would have remained a virgin.

Anyone else been down this road? I'd appreciate sole words of advice. Thanks. I don't know what I should do.

 

[Neon Owl]

Go see your doctor ffs! It may be something that is easily fixed but you won't know unless you go and find out what's causing your problems.

Best of luck.

 

[goundra]

my god. It's over when you or she SAY it's over. why aint that obvious?

 

[YAboi]

you are the man to have such a babe. she sees qualities in you that you don't see. Believe u are the boss and go tobthe gym so u can have good health.

 

[R.C]

Oh god please tell me you are trolling...


So let me get this straight.

You got a girl that is:
-hot
-has patience with your lack of experience
-gives you time to improve and actually supports you through it
-loves your huge OMEGA ass (yes,not even beta) more than you love her,for some reason


And you:

-are getting fat
-are not spending every second on improving your sex life and overall self
-are obsessing over the fact that you're not good enough for her , which we both know is the real reason you 'just don't care anymore'.A self-defense mechanism to help nurture your wounded ego is all that excuse stands for. And to my surprise no one else has pointed this out yet.
-you're not a very sexual guy ? no , you are a sexual guy. You're also fat now and lack performance in pleasuring her. That's your reality , the rest is your excuse.Yet you hide behind this pathetic pretext of "I'm not a sexual guy" ?


I swear to god if I were your best friend ...actually no , if I were in front of you right now I'd slap you so hard you'd immediately snap back to the real world.

What the hell is wrong with you ?

I'm really not trying to offend you here but seriously for god's sake ,wake up man !

You are getting swallowed by the black hole of your own insecurities and it's not only gonna cost you your relationship , reason for which you will kick yourself endlessly in the balls , it will also suck you deeper and deeper for every minute you stay in it , making your come-back 10 times as hard with every passing moment.


Wake up ,eat right , work out , fvck the living soul out of your girl - as she deserves it , and get a massive grip on your life !

God damnit I'm so angry with guys that can't appreciate what they have and fall pray to their personal issues and insecurities.

You will end curled up in a ball on the fvcking floor crying your eyes out in misery both because of losing her and yourself. And for what ? for being such a damn passive vegetable !

As the great Pook once said:
"Foresight teaches softly , error teaches brutally".

I have given you your foresight. The choice is yours.

 

[oldspice891]

Oh god please tell me you are trolling...


So let me get this straight.

You got a girl that is:
-hot
-has patience with your lack of experience
-gives you time to improve and actually supports you through it
-loves your huge OMEGA ass (yes,not even beta) more than you love her,for some reason


And you:

-are getting fat
-are not spending every second on improving your sex life and overall self
-are obsessing over the fact that you're not good enough for her , which we both know is the real reason you 'just don't care anymore'.A self-defense mechanism to help nurture your wounded ego is all that excuse stands for. And to my surprise no one else has pointed this out yet.
-you're not a very sexual guy ? no , you are a sexual guy. You're also fat now and lack performance in pleasuring her. That's your reality , the rest is your excuse.Yet you hide behind this pathetic pretext of "I'm not a sexual guy" ?


I swear to god if I were your best friend ...actually no , if I were in front of you right now I'd slap you so hard you'd immediately snap back to the real world.

What the hell is wrong with you ?

I'm really not trying to offend you here but seriously for god's sake ,wake up man !

You are getting swallowed by the black hole of your own insecurities and it's not only gonna cost you your relationship , reason for which you will kick yourself endlessly in the balls , it will also suck you deeper and deeper for every minute you stay in it , making your come-back 10 times as hard with every passing moment.


Wake up ,eat right , work out , fvck the living soul out of your girl - as she deserves it , and get a massive grip on your life !

God damnit I'm so angry with guys that can't appreciate what they have and fall pray to their personal issues and insecurities.

You will end curled up in a ball on the fvcking floor crying your eyes out in misery both because of losing her and yourself. And for what ? for being such a damn passive vegetable !

As the great Pook once said:
"Foresight teaches softly , error teaches brutally".

I have given you your foresight. The choice is yours.

Thanks man. I needed that for sure.

I appreciate the advice. I guess I've always been the guy to feel like I really lost something to learn my lesson so it won't happen again, but I need to stop being a ***** about it. Thanks bros!

 

[DonDiscovery]

Wake up ,eat right , work out , fvck the living soul out of your girl - as she deserves it , and get a massive grip on your life !

This. A thousand times this.