My wife has been cheating on me, not because she's a tramp but because of the way I've treated her over the years and also my being unfaithful with various women throughout our marriage. But she always gave me another chance. Should I give her a chance? There is alot of issues that we need to address and work on but is it possible to trust somebody again after going something like this?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When is it ok to forgive?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
What good for the goose is good for the gander.
You've got a huge situation here - and I think only you can figure that out.
There was a tip I read in the bible that said - sometimes it's just better to look past someone's transgretion.
That all depends on you though.
You've got a huge situation here - and I think only you can figure that out.
There was a tip I read in the bible that said - sometimes it's just better to look past someone's transgretion.
That all depends on you though.
If you cheated on her maybe she just needed to do the same to feel even. But it does show that she didn't forgive you. I don't think you can blame her for that. No one wants to feel like the doormat in a relationship.
I think you owe her the chance this time, but there are still some mutual trust issues that could take a lot of work to resolve...or they could make you both work harder and strengthen your relationship.
I think you owe her the chance this time, but there are still some mutual trust issues that could take a lot of work to resolve...or they could make you both work harder and strengthen your relationship.
maranathaman
Master Don Juan
If you wanna save your marraige...
Seek marital counciling together.
If you are-not willing to put-in the effort,
then you might as well get divorced.
Seek marital counciling together.
If you are-not willing to put-in the effort,
then you might as well get divorced.
MrBond007
Banned
The only time you should forgive someone is when they were punished appropriately.
A man asked Jesus( its a translation from something I remember):
-My brother keeps doing me wrong.
-Well then get even and forgive him.
-What if he wrongs me again and again?
-Get even for each wrongs and forgive him each times.
A man asked Jesus( its a translation from something I remember):
-My brother keeps doing me wrong.
-Well then get even and forgive him.
-What if he wrongs me again and again?
-Get even for each wrongs and forgive him each times.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
princelydeeds
Master Don Juan
You were wrong and maybe she did need to get you back. But when will she be done getting you back? Then how will you know when shes done getting you back? After she gets you back will you ever be able to forgive her for getting you back? Will you get her back for getting you back?
IMHO, It's over let her go, walk away. This situation will only get uglier. It sounds like she won't ever be able to truly forgive you and so now the game of hurting each other has begun. When a woman has truly let you go in her heart, I don't believe you can ever get her back. Walk away while you still have your dignity.
IMHO, It's over let her go, walk away. This situation will only get uglier. It sounds like she won't ever be able to truly forgive you and so now the game of hurting each other has begun. When a woman has truly let you go in her heart, I don't believe you can ever get her back. Walk away while you still have your dignity.
MrBond007
Banned
You know you shoudnt take a chance with her anyway. You know the sayin`: Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.