My wife has been cheating on me, not because she's a tramp but because of the way I've treated her over the years and also my being unfaithful with various women throughout our marriage. But she always gave me another chance. Should I give her a chance? There is alot of issues that we need to address and work on but is it possible to trust somebody again after going something like this?
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When is it ok to forgive?
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NewMan
Master Don Juan
What good for the goose is good for the gander.
You've got a huge situation here - and I think only you can figure that out.
There was a tip I read in the bible that said - sometimes it's just better to look past someone's transgretion.
That all depends on you though.
You've got a huge situation here - and I think only you can figure that out.
There was a tip I read in the bible that said - sometimes it's just better to look past someone's transgretion.
That all depends on you though.
If you cheated on her maybe she just needed to do the same to feel even. But it does show that she didn't forgive you. I don't think you can blame her for that. No one wants to feel like the doormat in a relationship.
I think you owe her the chance this time, but there are still some mutual trust issues that could take a lot of work to resolve...or they could make you both work harder and strengthen your relationship.
I think you owe her the chance this time, but there are still some mutual trust issues that could take a lot of work to resolve...or they could make you both work harder and strengthen your relationship.
maranathaman
Master Don Juan
If you wanna save your marraige...
Seek marital counciling together.
If you are-not willing to put-in the effort,
then you might as well get divorced.
Seek marital counciling together.
If you are-not willing to put-in the effort,
then you might as well get divorced.
MrBond007
Banned
The only time you should forgive someone is when they were punished appropriately.
A man asked Jesus( its a translation from something I remember):
-My brother keeps doing me wrong.
-Well then get even and forgive him.
-What if he wrongs me again and again?
-Get even for each wrongs and forgive him each times.
A man asked Jesus( its a translation from something I remember):
-My brother keeps doing me wrong.
-Well then get even and forgive him.
-What if he wrongs me again and again?
-Get even for each wrongs and forgive him each times.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
princelydeeds
Master Don Juan
You were wrong and maybe she did need to get you back. But when will she be done getting you back? Then how will you know when shes done getting you back? After she gets you back will you ever be able to forgive her for getting you back? Will you get her back for getting you back?
IMHO, It's over let her go, walk away. This situation will only get uglier. It sounds like she won't ever be able to truly forgive you and so now the game of hurting each other has begun. When a woman has truly let you go in her heart, I don't believe you can ever get her back. Walk away while you still have your dignity.
IMHO, It's over let her go, walk away. This situation will only get uglier. It sounds like she won't ever be able to truly forgive you and so now the game of hurting each other has begun. When a woman has truly let you go in her heart, I don't believe you can ever get her back. Walk away while you still have your dignity.
MrBond007
Banned
You know you shoudnt take a chance with her anyway. You know the sayin`: Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.